What was your most brutal firsthand experience of AWALT?

KinkysMT · 2018-10-26T16:51:24+00:00

My first and only LTR of 4,5 years. As soon as you're not on top of your shit temporarly and open up your emotions she's gonna cheat on you and lose attraction. Even if she said "I love you" two weeks before. Sad but true.

The biggest mistake I ever make was going back with her after our first breakup (2 years since I met her) and slowly giving her my trust again, just to be stabbed in the back again after one year with her cheating again.

I was a masochist.

Not anymore.

I'm greatful for it because I then discovered TRP and now i know that AWALT.

DadOnDabs · 2018-10-26T18:59:13+00:00

Stereotypical "good girl" who had her shit together, took care of herself, educated, and everyone liked.

I was surprised she even talked to me and she lead me on for a long time. I reinforced it and didn't see through the bs. She said, "if you're just looking for sex that's not me, I don't even like sex that much." I believed her until I was working the front desk (dorm RA) and had to check her out of our resident light skinned Chads room at 7am for her early morning walk of shame. She wouldn't even look me in the eye, the smile on that guys face. That was the day I swallowed the pill.

jakethesnake5000 · 2018-10-26T16:46:25+00:00

Divorce. Her coming at me for money after she promised she wouldn’t. Can’t trust these hoes

319Skew · 2018-10-26T22:45:42+00:00

Divorce rape.

Nothing like the woman you love taking you to court, alleging you assaulted her, so she can get sole custody and you get supervised visits for your son.

Oh wait. Never mind. No, there's the feeling of paying her an incremental percentage of your monthly income, seeing her waste it on frivolous crap, seeing her (poorly) attempt to hide going on the cock carousel, and then hearing her excuses why you can't have more time with you own child.

This is coming from a born again 'Christian'.

She went from virgin sweetheart to woman that was out to destroy me in every way possible.

lnternetLiftingCoach · 2018-10-27T00:35:47+00:00

Back in the 00’s I orbited a friend of mine, a down-to-earth country girl. Tomboyish, brilliant green eyes, always ready for a road trip or hike. I thought she was perfect. She had this abusive on-and-off college boyfriend she was always whining about but never left.

She’d landed a life-changing internship that was the holy grail for people in her major. A week in she just ghosted them because Chad wanted her to move out to his home state.

After a few months she called us all crying that he’d turned abusive, had become addicted to drugs, yadda yadda. He’d been jailed for some crime or another giving her a window to escape. So me, a couple other orbiters, and a mother hen hopped in a van and drove a thousand miles to rescue her(sounds like the setup for a movie).

We got her back and the next six weeks were perfect. We helped find her a job, went camping, and things seemed normal again. Then she vanished. Ghosted work, left her studio apartment empty, and so on. A few days after that her MySpace is full of pictures of her back with Chad.

So many lessons learned. They all want Chad, don’t white knight, etc. Our ancestors chose husbands for their daughters because they don’t have the maturity to make good decisions for themselves. It’s like letting a toddler eat nothing but ice cream because it’s their favorite food. Give them free reign and a quarter of them will run out and get impregnated by an unemployed alcoholic.

Sexual liberation is destructive to societies because women miss the days of Cave Chad fathering most of the kids. Men on the other hand crave the hierarchy and order that only punishing adultery and providing a wife for every man who works and obeys the law can bring. Enjoy the collapse, but remember that the goal is the restoration of patriarchy.

imboredofitall · 2018-10-26T21:14:51+00:00

Hooking up with my dream girl in a foreign land, knowing she was cheating on her boyfriend of five years with not only myself, but with another guy at the same time. She was shopping around and I sold that bitch in a dream the others couldn’t compare to. I witnessed her speaking in the phone with her boyfriend while we were off to stock up on condoms

atticusfinch1973 · 2018-10-26T20:30:49+00:00

First time I went through a girl's phone I was dating who had acted suspiciously. Every guy she said was a "friend" she had slept with. She had done things with other guys that she lied about, including incredibly slutty things she claimed she hadn't done. And she had been active on Tinder while we were dating even though she denied it.

When your instincts tell you she's lying, she is.

letsbiohackslaves · 2018-10-26T20:02:56+00:00

LTR of 2 years cheated with my best friend who I have known for 10 years. I am glad it happened because it made me into the person I am now. One has to have chaos in oneself in order to give birth to a dancing star.

Popeman79 · 2018-10-27T03:38:34+00:00

I dated a sweet girl who was prude in the bedroom, and who kept telling me about an ex who was 'abusive and only used her as a sex toy'. I understood and was supportive. Still it didn't work and I dumped her after a couple months, then one year later her new guy contacted me, we met and he told me she kept telling him about me, how I was 'abusive and only used her as a sex toy'.

cat_magnet · 2018-10-26T23:01:50+00:00

I could tell stories but at the end of the day they all had red flags I chose to ignore in the beginning.

dani098 · 2018-10-27T02:23:16+00:00

I don’t have a terribly brutal one but I love learning these lessons. Reinforces why I am here. Thanks OP, Great post and great comments.

empatheticapathetic · 2018-10-26T23:42:02+00:00

Only actual experience I’ve had which led me here. Was 25 year old virgin. Met some 18 year old girl who was basically my dream girl. Didn’t know such a girl could exist (same race, interests, upbringing, sense of humour. She looks like my mom and I look like her dad or something).

Had a great first and second meeting. We were really into each other. She told me she wanted to lose her virginity to me (she thought I was a player). She lost it 2 days before we were supposed to meet to some random bar guy and then shoved it in my face and shat on me to alleviate her guilt. She still was up to bang I believe but I wasn’t interested any more. Cut contact.

Told my sister and my mom about it and they both defended her AWALT actions and shamed me. Lost my job. Felt pretty suicidal for a few months after that while I read TRP 24/7.

Ravenscar7 · 2018-10-27T00:20:34+00:00

I went out to play mini golf and my gf at the time introduced me to her work colleague, who had come with her boyfriend.

Her bf admitted to her that night that he was scared of me and didn't want to get on my bad side.

I had done fuck all but stand there and play mini golf. But he was a lanky skinny ginger fuck and I'm quite stocky, been lifting 10 hours a week for nearly 2 years.

Later that night my gfs work colleague dmed me on Facebook. I fucked her the same night.

lesson : Don't admit to a gf you feel threatened by another man lmao.

flashcash12 · 2018-10-26T22:41:25+00:00

Hooked up with a girl in class knowing she had a bf at another college (she didn’t tell me). Ran into them when he was visiting. She claimed he was a friend.

The look on his face said it all.

Then proceeded to send me nudes of her in the shower later that night. No boyfriend present obviously.

Memeandmesomemore · 2018-10-27T11:05:45+00:00

I suppose my first one was the first real girlfriend when I was like 16. She went ice skating with her friend and met me later but was really "off". Turns out some boy had "kissed her" at the ice skating and she "felt guilty".

It was my first taste of the kind of insane drama they like to pull, but of course I didn't learn from it.

A few years later I got involved with a married woman at work - started banging her about 3 weeks after she got back from her honeymoon. Same with her, lots of drama. She eventually cheated on her hubby with one of his woek colleagues, then cheated on him with someone else, then cheated on him with someone else - etc.

Another married colleague used to jerk me of etc in the storeroom at work.

Another convinced her hubby to let her go out with me "because we were friends and she was bored" and we used to go straight round to her friends house and bang each other stupid.

Another who'd had umpteen affairs (and her hubby knew and still let her go out - with other men - including me). He eventually threw her out.

Plus various other hook ups and fumbles in nightclubs etc with married women who'd "never done anything like this before - because they was in lubs with the husband" etc.

Then my unicorn wife of 20 years who started exhibiting all of the devious nature and actions of the married women I'd been involved with above.

So 6 months ago I swallowed the RP and kicked her the fuck out, started divorce proceedings and am now most definitely never going to be involved in any kind of LTR ever again.

You know why? Because AWALT.

That's why.

BloodSurgery · 2018-10-27T11:47:41+00:00

These are the right questions to ask, instead of "how to pass X shit test?" 1000 times lmao. Thanks for making a good post with lots of info OP.

WoodenToe · 2018-10-27T14:50:31+00:00

Met this girl at church who seemed relatively wholesome. She told me she had only been with four guys and that she only has sex with guys in LTRs. Truth was 27 guys, including MMF threesomes, sex tapes, one night stands, etc.

supersonic-turtle · 2018-10-27T03:31:02+00:00

I've been cheated on several times. My game isn't weak, I'm not broke, I'm not ugly. So either I'm a real piece of shit or awalt. Not denying I can be shitty but I'm seeing a trend. Now I'm older and wiser so first hint of branch swinging and I get out before the house burns down.

vullnet123 · 2018-10-27T13:56:44+00:00

When I opened up to my ex. She was my only LTR, she left me a week ago. Since I've read TRP, I've come to realize why it failed. When I first started talking to her, I knew I was better than her. I treated her like I was a player, and that she wasn't on my level. And she chased after me before we became official, we went on one date, then I stopped communicating and she constantly tried planning stuff or texting me.

Fast forward to when we got into a relationship, I started making her my priority. started becoming vulnerable and emotional with her. At first she understood and supported me, but after it became just her being cold. She hadn't left me yet but she was a completely different person like I became. I'm glad I found TRP because I wouldn't have realized my mistakes and I'd keep making the same ones.

She probably branch-swung to one of the guys I would get worried about, but at this point its whatever. I'm still not over her and am BP in some ways, but I'm better. I realize I cant cry and be depressed all the time and hope for the best. I'm in charge of my life. I make it what I want. I can't just lay in bed all day and become better(She also told me this).

bbcbarbarossa · 2018-10-27T00:08:13+00:00

This chick when riding me got a call on her phone and she answered and said "Yeah I'm studying babe. Will call you back in an hour."

Then took a selfie of just her face and probably sent it to him. Then she kept her phone away and resumed the proceedings like nothing happened.

What a bitch. I switched positions and angrily dogged her brains out.

look_up_there · 2018-10-27T12:28:28+00:00

Was about 6 months out of a 3yr ltr and met this hb 9. She came onto me to which rocked me big time, preselection helped immensely with this. I fell for her hard, thought she was perfect and put that pussy on the grandest pedestal youve ever seen. I left the country after sleeping with her for a few weeks and realised that I had genuine feelings. Some part of me swore to myself that I would not return home for this girl and im so happy i didnt, but it was the hardest mental battle Ive fought yet. This bitch was BPD material and she played me for months. Most manipulative and cunning women ive ever known. Lesson learned, I will never let it happen again.

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2018-10-27T11:34:22+00:00

They WILL use your kids against you.

Got divorced and was constantly getting threats that if the divorce didn't go her way she'd fight for full custody and, because she's a woman, win. Later I started dating a single mom (I was pre-red pill) who's ex left her with a kid. She always talked about the need and value of fathers because of this, so I figured she was sympathetic to my position regarding my son with my ex. She ended up pregnant by me, I told her I'd step up and take care of my kid, but I wasn't going to commit to a relationship. When she realized I was serious, she punished me by taking my son and moving far away. So much for the value of a father to a child.

Eventually she realized our son did need me and she could use the help, so she moved back, and we made an arrangement for joint custody. But I'm one of the lucky ones. Some fathers lose their kids forever.

Never trust that a woman will put the kids first. Her emotions and spite come first.

PrincepsFerrous · 2018-11-26T23:35:15+00:00

Two moments of clarity:

The first after my relationship that I acted incredibly beta and withheld sex from me. Cheated on me after I bought her a ring for Valentine's and proceeded to hook-up with other people while "on a break to find herself."

Second was today, a plate of mine is contemplating getting back with her ex. She proceeds to cut ties with me, I ignore and she comes back. Asks for sex, goes on to say how she loves to chase me, I don't do anything for her and "make her feel like a woman." I have a way of "bringing her into my life" while at the same time "not giving a shit to what happens." She also likes that fact that I can plate other women, as she frequently sees me flirting/talking to other girls.

It's both heartbreaking and exciting that this is how it works. TRP is the most bittersweet pill I will ever experience in my life.

drSiAl9782 · 2019-02-14T14:02:28+00:00

Got married to a girl (not diagnosed, but strong BPD tendencies) who turned on me, cheated repeatedly, and tried to destroy me. I did what I thought was right in that relationship, I gave her everything she ever wanted and treated her very well. And she turned on me like a switch, she didn't have the courtesy to stab me in the back, she just did it right in front of my face.

For the record, after discovering all this, and after truly following my own path and taking full responsibility and control of my life, I believe I am the happiest divorced man on the planet.

imtheoneimmortal · 2018-10-26T23:29:48+00:00

Nothing, why it should be brutal?

Title	What was your most brutal firsthand experience of AWALT?
Author	DeeLad29
Upvotes	84
Comments	93
Date	26 October 2018 04:34 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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