Day 3 - Say No.

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January 16, 2013

If you're following the plan as you should be, today is your day off from your workout. (unless you're on M-W-F schedule, in which case carry on).

Today's exercise is simple. Say no.

We all have women in our lives who we have previously attempted to engage romantically, with no luck. Yet, they manage to stay in our lives. Maybe on facebook. Maybe at work. Maybe at home. Maybe in your group of friends.

Today, if any of them approach you for a favor. Anything as simple as "hold my purse" or "can you help me with..." just say no.

Do not give an excuse. Do not try to smooth this over. Just say no. If they ask why, just say "I'm busy, sorry."

Learning to say no takes practice. As you become good at it, your Yes will become more powerful.

Document your experiences here in the comments.

Required reading today

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Title Day 3 - Say No.
Author redpillschool
Upvotes 43
Comments 17
Date 16 January 2013 04:03 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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[–]redpillschool[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children) | Copy

Today a girl who I previously asked out during my blue pill days and got the flakiest of replies (no answer) contacted me on facebook. She was having trouble with her boyfriend and needed a place to stay for a week.

I said "no, sorry."

She pushed. "Why notttt? Comeon I'll cook for you!"

I responded, "I'm busy"

[–]MockingDead 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

Oh man. I wish I had started sooner. just last week I agreed to feed my friends cat. Now she's being a flake.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

There will be plenty of other times

[–]GaiusScaevolus 16 points17 points  (3 children) | Copy

Contacted on facebook by a girl I've known since high school.

Her: I need your help! I have a paper due tomorrow on international terrorism.

Me: and?

H: and your super smart.!

Me: I know.

Her: So help me.



Me: Nope, Sorry.

EDIT: Re-read the conversation. Missed a part of the exchange which I thought adds a little alpha flair.

[–][deleted] 9 points9 points | Copy

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[–]redpillschool[S] 21 points22 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think a curt "sorry" isn't bad. It certainly doesn't convey that you're actually sorry, but lessens the tone that would otherwise make you look rude or upset. Adds a flair, in my opinion.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I always look at this as:

"I feel sorry that you are not getting what you want" versus "I am sorry that I am not giving it to you"

It is like being sorry that someone's mom died.

[–]LuciusExitius 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That was a great read! Though it makes me realize how beta I am. One step at a time though.

[–]VZPurpMan: First Class 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

The article is excellent and it must have subconsciously inspired me to grow some balls and say no, because without checking this subreddit, I said no to the first female request today that would have sent me doing errands instead of taking a walk outside like I wanted.

It was a good walk in the rain. I enjoyed my time. Fuck doing someone's errands for nothing in return and no appreciation or respect.

[–]ospurt 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

No used to be very difficult for me. When I was mainlining blue pill (OK force fed since birth) I said yes to a lot of stuff for women. I had to be broken (literally) before I said was months after that when the red pill taught me why that was working and why that was empowering. It also helped me understand why my marriage was about to end, and why I had to be the one to do it.

No is a very powerful word, and I am still learning to wield it properly.

I don't know what my no to a woman in my anti-harem today will be...OK I know what my no was, but it wasn't to a woman, it was to my work....I had been sick and I took an extra half day to recuperate...I enjoyed it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Been there, done that.

"o1e63, please help me with python"

"I'm busy."

"I'll cook for you."

"I have exams to study for. Bye."

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

That was FUCKING GOLD. Wow.

[–]redpillgreenlight 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Not sure if the ship has sailed on this girl or not but 1) I didn't take her call until I was done hanging with the guys and 2) I'm not doing the gig with her tomorrow because I have an audition she doesn't know about. Luckily I don't have many other Candys in my life at present.

[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (3 children) | Copy

My ex, who's back here from college.

She calls me a little before midnight.

Her: "Heyyy!! So, we're still meeting tomorrow, right?"

Me: "What? I don't think we are."

Her: "Well, you said you'd come to my place, we'd cook, and stuff. And then I said I was bored of staying home, and then you disappeared." (was on skype)

Me: "There you go. We didn't agree on meeting tomorrow."

Her: "But we did."

Me: "No, busy. I'm meeting a friend."

Her: "Okay then. Er, bye?"

Me: "Ok. Bye."


[–]heads_tails_hails 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

I dont know about this... Sounding angry or being reactive in a passive way (I know) shows doesn't portray alpha as much as it does douche

[–]FingerRoot 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

Jesus christ this saying no stuff does not apply to denying an opportunity to fuck

[–]Dokubi 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

An opportunity to fuck an ex-girlfriend might not be what this guy cares about. Guess what, men don't have to fuck every girl who wants them. Alphas get their choice of all the women.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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