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RP Do's and Dont's I have learned in the last month

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October 9, 2014

If you are going to grow as a Man, you must know that your undertaking will be long and difficult, marked with failure and most people in your life will tell you to just throw in the towel. Why? Because THEY threw in the towel. Fuck them. Make them rue the day they underestimated you.

Backstory: I am 32, single with no kids and currently weigh 275 lbs. I found out my wife was done with me in late May 2014. When I found out she was leaving, I weighed 315. So I have lost 40 pounds since then and will never stop working toward a better, healthier body. I look great, I feel amazing and most importantly I am MOVING FORWARD instead of standing still. ALWAYS BE PUSHING.

The following is a list of things I am doing daily to follow the red pill literature and also a list of things I am AVOIDING to help me accomplish my goals.

What I do:

  1. Exercise AT LEAST once a day, twice is the goal. That might sound like madness to some new red pill acolytes, but try it before you knock it. I am not saying act like Rocky training for his fight with Drago. I ride my bike when I wake up for 3 miles, trying to do the whole circuit in under 15 minutes (or 4 songs). I also go to the gym each night and do 20 minutes of intense treadmill, 15 minutes of intense stairmaster and either the bike or extra treadmill until I hit 45 minutes. If you aren’t uncomfortable and sweating, you are doing it wrong. If you are seriously out of shape and need to walk real slow at first to get yourself going, fine do it. But remember the goal: Heavy breathing and sweat all the time. Otherwise you really aint doing shit. Just started weight training, and I am gonna go slow since I care more about weight loss than muscle growth currently. But trust, it is heavy in my future plans.
  2. Read every day. Last week I read Bang by Roosh. Right now I am reading the 48 laws of Power by Robert Greene. Great book so far that I highly recommend. I have Mystery Method on my desk as my next book and I just ordered The Art of Seduction by Mr. Greene, The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi (this guy knows his shit), and Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman. The purpose of the Emotional Intelligence book is solely to work on my emotional poker face and master my ability to be a goddamn Oak tree in the face of a women’s shit tests and melt downs. I recommend reading for at least an hour a day. It truly can help with women too, as you always have fodder for small talk (hat tip to Roosh for this one; check out his book reviews section).
  3. Practice your hobby/passion at least 2-3 times a week. I am a bass player and this means I have value that I can demonstrate to others via performance. Practicing and learning new techniques, scales, chords, etc. is helping me grow. It also keeps me busy so when bitches hit me up, I am not “available.” Remember, you don’t want to be available all the time to a women, it signals you have nothing going on and therefore will invest an inordinate amount of time and energy into your relationship (gag). Instead, “make your mission your priority” (see the 16 commandments of Poon by Roissy for more details). If you are student, hit the books or go meet people in your field. If you don’t have any hobbies, I don’t have any sympathy for you because that means you are one of the boring Betas who make my job easier :) Every man is interested in something – dive head in, get your hands dirty and create meaning in your life. I know my office job certainly isn’t leaving me filling fulfilled. It’s just a paycheck. To a women, that means I am passion-less office drone. So surprise yourself and get heavy into what you love. People will notice.
  4. Take your appearance seriously. Brush your teeth daily, get a nice haircut every other week, get some new clothes every 3-4 months. Money is not an excuse man. I live in LA and I see broke ass kids all the time looking fresh to death. If it’s important to you, you will make it a priority. And women will see it. You don’t need a new wardrobe over night or an extreme make over. You are a Man who is finding himself and learning his tastes. Find Men around you that you respect, that you see are successful with women and study them. You will notice they wear a time piece; their skin isn’t as greasy as rest of the guys in the office. Their clothes seems to fit them in a way yours don’t -nothing is too tight or too baggy. Their body language communicates they are comfortable and relaxed no matter where he is. Keep studying. Notice that their effortless banter with waitresses and secretaries is made easier by fresh breath and the fact that there isn’t moss growing on his teeth. He packs his lunch with proteins and veggies or makes healthy choices and doesn’t get Wendy’s 3 times a week. Bitches notice this. He washes his car on the reg, no matter how big a piece of shit hoopty it is. Remember the Frame: I am the Prince. Well, if you were really a real prince, you would LOOK like a prince.
  5. Have fun, everywhere. Be the party. Make a boring night more interesting. People love it when someone has the balls to push a rudderless ship in ANY direction. At least you tried! Why be miserable because you are in traffic or waiting in line at the market? Strike up a conversation and get laughing. Keep your fucking phone in your pocket. No one appreciates another Beta retreating to the comfort of his smart phone instead of acting. No one remembers the “really cute guy with his shoulders slumped and his face staring at his phone.” Everyone remembers the charismatic guy who made the usually boring time at the laundry mat go by really fast.
  6. Approach strangers if they interest you. Man or woman. I walked up to a 90 year old man at the market on Sunday and started talking to him about his baseball cap; I bought the same type of hat for my gramps because my gramps was at pearl harbor on a battleship and is proud as fuck. So I got him a hat with his ship name and number a few Christmases’ ago. The old guy in the market, whose name is Art by the way, was genuinely happy I stopped to talk to him and guess what? Mad bitches watching me, wondering why a hot young guy in gym clothes is shooting the shit with an old man in the middle of a grocery store on Sunday morning.
  7. Make empowering music mixes to work out to and to listen to on the way to work and when going out. This is no joke. This shit works. I can literally feel the “power” - the undulating waves of Alpha when I hear certain parts of certain songs. It can also have a useful kinetic-like effect in that the same mix I play when going out or working out is the same mix I fuck chicks to and the same mix I listen to on the way home after fucking a bitch. It internalizes the music and ties it to the powerful feelings you have after you just destroyed some chick and left her weak in the knees. The next time that song comes on, you will get a boner or be transported back to that moment of victory. Try it. I will be making some posts with the music I have been using lately. So useful.

What I don’t do:

Number 1- I don’t watch TV. TV is bad for multiple reasons, red pill-wise. It is filled with shows and advertising that subliminally reinforces the status quo of feminist primacy by displaying bumbling idiot dads being cowed by their bitchy, controlling wives and bratty fuck face kids. I know I’m not the first to notice or comment on this but it is a real problem because it makes you comfortable with those archetypes because you see them so often. Don’t get comfortable. Always challenge yourself and the ideas that you are presented with as “truth”. Have a natural curiosity about people and the world; it will help you immensely. TV is also is filled with ads for delicious and tempting new fat guy foods like Bacon stuffed pizza and pretzel burgers. So it will tempt you when what you really need is a mindset of SACRIFICE, not COMFORT. Lastly, TV is filled with sneering Irony, mocks sincerity, and allows us to live a hermetic existence by watching others live interesting lives but not compelling us to turn off the TV and GO LIVE an interesting life. Go read David Foster Wallace’s essay “E Unibus Pluram: Television and U.S. Fiction” (takes 2 seconds to google) for an amazing analysis of how irony became entrenched in television and U.S. pop culture, turning sincerity into a joke. The article also discusses the voyeuristic qualities of TV watching and how that allows us to escape from ever having to experience some of the most rewarding parts of being a Human. Here is a great quote:

If it’s true that many Americans are lonely, and if it’s true that many lonely people find in television’s 2D images relief from the pain of their reluctance to be around real humans, then it’s also obvious that the more time spent watching TV, the less time spent in the real human world, the harder it becomes to not feel alienated from real humans, solipsistic, lonely. – David Foster Wallace

Number 2 - I don’t play video games. I was a pretty big gamer for a while there (40K+ Gamerscore on xbox) but guess what? When I met my ex-wife in college at age 22 and was super alpha, I hadn’t playing video games since I was 15. Too busy partying. But once I moved in with my girl, I got the Halo 3 edition console and was a permanent couch potato up until about six months ago. Combine that with shitty eating habits, no exercise and an office job and you have a recipe for Beta Bitch tits.

Number 3 - I don’t care about food. Put another way, I reframed by view of food from a pleasure/reward vantage to a fuel only vantage. How did I accomplish this? I took a moment and did some soul searching. I noticed that I am an emotional eater and that when I am stressed out I binge on certain really bad foods, like pizza and ice cream. I would start to eat badly and that would turn into eating badly for a whole weekend, then a whole week. Eating fast food literally makes me sick now. I ate some greasy ass pizza hut pizza last weekend (2 slices!) and it ruined my Saturday night. It was like putting peanut butter in a gas tank. I felt thick, lethargic, couldn’t concentrate and all I wanted to do was take a nap. That is what the old Lazarus would have done, taken a nap after eating 5-6 slices of pizza. Disgusting. Now food has a whole different meaning since I started exercising and eating right. My entire attitude has changed. Exercising first thing in the morning and putting on positive Male music gets my day started right. A healthy breakfast fuels me until my lunch salad. Once I go to the gym again at night, I feel like I could conquer the world. Try it; it’s crazy what endorphins and testosterone combined with a non-shitty diet will do for your mental state. You will think clearly, act quickly and be ready to take all comers.

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Title RP Do's and Dont's I have learned in the last month
Author LazarusTRP
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Date 09 October 2014 04:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–]Iupvoteforknowledge8 points9 points  (9 children) | Copy

Fucking great post. One caveat for skinny dudes trying to bulk. Exercising every day works for cardio and cutting but if you are looking to build strength and gain mass a strength program like stronglifts or SS with a rest day in between every session will make your lifts all go up by 20-30lbs in the first month or so. Just follow the program and eat!

[–]tenin2010br1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

Is there a specific program that's good for new guys? I just got a job and can afford a membership to my local gym, but I've been doing endurance exercises with small weights at home for about a month now and I've noticed some slight gains (arm exercises primarily).

[–]colincrunch3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Starting Strength or Stronglifts 5x5. Go check out the /r/fitness FAQ

[–]HiddenPools3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

I follow this one, specifically for skinny guys. It doesn't have much on legs, so you'll have to make up your own leg day. I've been using it for almost three months now and still see significant gains, as in, I have muscles that I literally never even saw before on my body. And this is not that hard of a workout, in and out in 30-40 minutes.

[–]tenin2010br1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Good to know, this is what I'm looking for to be honest. With a 30 hour workweek and 18 credits of classes I can't spend all my time at the gym and get 8 hours of sleep.

[–]HiddenPools1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yep, I've got a 40 hour workweek, plus social meetups, regular meetups, friends, a girl, house, etc. and this fits pretty nicely in there. I would suggest doing the stuff on the bar rack (powerrack?) first if your gym is anything like mine because you'll be waiting in line for that.

[–]tenin2010br0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Gotta start at YouFit unfortunately, but I will definitely get some stuff done on the racks first when I'm there (they have some, not a lot). Thanks for the advice!

[–]Iupvoteforknowledge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Like Colin said, SS or Stronglifts is fucking great. Add supplementary work for your arms and abs if you want. Definitely add dips, chin ups, and push ups no matter what and you are fucking set. You will see gains for at least six months if you are resting and eating right.

[–]AntixD0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

what's ss? great post btw,loved it

[–]Iupvoteforknowledge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Starting Strength.

[–]149311252 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great post, but dont read robert greene art of seduction. All his other books are great, but Art of Seduction is super BP.

[–]stanthebox0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, even creepy in some parts. I understand deeply the strategies he explains, but its not something for a man focusing on self improvement should be reading yet.

[–]faceoftheinternet2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Commenting so I can find later

[–]Cruising742 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy


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I know my office job certainly isn’t leaving me filling fulfilled. It’s just a paycheck. To a women, that means I am passion-less office drone.

I don't disagree with pursuing passion but...
who gives a flying fuck what women think?

[–]TankVet3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I admit I scoffed at the title. ("What could you possibly have learned in a month?") But this is a damn good list. You advocate growth and discipline. You discourage laziness and instant gratification.

I disagree about some of the don'ts, in that I think there can be room in a man's life for luxuries like television or video games, as long as it's in considerable moderation (I watch SportsCenter while I eat breakfast, for example, I think this is harmless.) But I am very much on board with reading and exercise and hobbies. I would probably add "writing" to the list and maybe extend your comments about appearance to include keeping your living space and mode of transportation in proper condition as well.

Excellent list. Very impressive to have come up with it so quickly.

[–]LazarusTRP[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you man. Yea i will concede you can still game and watch tv IF you are very careful to maintain moderation. Which as a gamer you know is hard with so many awesome time sink games out there.

I sometimes put on TV if i can't fall asleep for like 20 minutes late at night. But usually I just pass out from all the exercise :) Just be careful bros- I saw the ad for that new Alien game and holy shit i want to go get it! In fact i had already pre-ordered it like a year ago. Now i'm too busy to play!

[–]SecretagentK1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Good list man! Did it feel good writing all that? To add to it the biggest piece is making up your mind to change.

People can sense purpose, men and women around you will sense that you are driven. Keep it up!

[–]LazarusTRP[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks man! Yes it did lol sorry if it was too long. YES! The only reason the shit I wrote is working is because I BELIEVE it is working. I have struggled with my weight my entire fucking life. But i know this time is DIFFERENT. Because of exactly what you said. You too man, have a badass day

[–]oldbluebox1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Awesome post

[–]Overzealous_BlackGuy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I love it,i can feel youre improvement through your words. Im not sure if gaming is your hobby,but thats the best way i get myself to stay home when i need not worry about going out and im trying to save more money

[–]winndixie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good shit.

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[–]LazarusTRP[S] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Sure. Basically, I noticed that a lot of my music collection was whiny, angst-filled Beta crap (Elliot Smith, Jack Johnson, Weezer, Jimmy Eat World, and many many more). I noticed that when i was listening to music on shuffle and a song by any of these artists came on, I immediately became sad. Depressed. Reminded of the loss of my wife, my house, my old life. It would put a black cloud over me for a few minutes to a whole day. So i started to look in my music collection for songs that do the opposite. Songs that don't pine about the one, songs that arent about wistful longing, swooning or beautiful poetic moments. Instead, I sought songs about smashing pussy, getting wasted, partying, breaking the law, satan, pretty much anything hedonistic and nothing that could be considered "deep."

With hip hop its super easy; there is a LOT of macho, Alpha badboy posturing in hip hop. And i can see why; these dudes came from the streets and its a dog eat dog world. You either get hard or you get killed. So this creates a "me against the world" mentality and world view. In addition, because rappers are rich and famous, all manner of ho's try to jump on the gravy train. They have had to adopt an abundance mentality and the lyrics often explicate the fact that bitches have to qualify for THEM, and that no women is special, no matter how cute she is.

For rock lyrics, its a lot harder with the current pussy-ass, watered down rock that has been building steam for the last 25+ years. But its still possible - I will be making a post this week on this exact topic so you will get a lot more details.

As for music only (or genres without lyrics, like techno), when looking for "masculine positive" music, I seek driving, fast tempo drum and bass, use of distortion/overdrive/fuzz as it gives a rugged, raw manly feel and goddammit I need me some drops.

[–]Ronin11A0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I noticed I was listening to a lot of whiny, Beta music after my break up with my last LTR for whom I had serious Oneitis. Spent an afternoon erasing all of those old playlists, and building new ones filled with music that made me feel like I can conquer the world. Epic stuff that explodes out of my speakers and fills the room like an arena of Alpha.

Modern rock is useless. You have to go back to pre-grunge stuff, especially 70's and 80's arena rock and hair metal. AC/DC is a great gateway drug for this stuff. Songs like "Shoot To Thrill" and "Have A Drink On Me" are perfect for getting your testosterone pumping.

I also really like bombastic, orchestral style stuff, both from movies and stuff that just sounds like it should be in a movie. Hans Zimmer, Brian Tyler, Zack Hemsey, Audiomachine. The kind of "hero rising" themes that give you chills down the back of your spine.

As for EDM, modern shit is like modern rock. The good stuff is back from '96-'05, where you had boss acts like Massive Attack, Fluke, old Oakenfold, Hybrid, Juno Reactor, Future Sound of London, and so forth.

The effect? Higher energy, more confidence. Result? New plates.

[–]Iupvoteforknowledge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Rock on the radio sucks. I listen to metalcore/metal and that shit gets me pumped when lifting.

[–]LazarusTRP[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Haha yes! Exactly! Thanks for the ideas man, i can't wait to post my music list tomorrow and trade with bros like you, I am getting sick of my current mixes. Thanks for reminding me I have all of ACDC's discography so after work I am going to gather the best of the best and make an only ACDC playlist too!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

I'd like your music list.

I'd also like to hear if there is any sort of reaction from your ex. It's always nice when the best revenge is living well.

[–]LazarusTRP[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Haha! Yeah man me too, its gonna be interesting when she eventually sees me and is shocked. We all have the power to make this change real. Just believe brother! Thank you for the positive feedback.

Definitely. I will drop the rock one tomorrow and the hip hop and techno after. Trying to make them readable and add red pill-angles to my posts so that i meet posting guidelines and help others connect the dots. I am not claiming to be any kind of expert/master on red pill topics (hell, im basically a noob) but I feel so fucking pumped by all the Male camaraderie that i just want to help my fellow brothers succeed!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't lose that energy bro.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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