To start, I'm in an open relationship with a woman who has a single plate that she spins while she is out of town on business. Her business trips occur monthly. While my woman is in town, contact with her plate is limited to text and occasional phone calls. I go out of town much less frequently than she does, and while she's out of town we are both happy with the notion that I'm spinning.

So, I met a single woman at a local Meetup group. She was new to town, and I offered to show her around town. I drove her around town, stopping to talk and initiate physical contact several times. At one of those stops, she advised me that she had had a date who was with her at the meetup as a 'date' and left her mid-meetup. I got the vibe that I could totally fuck her, but didn't want to cheat on my girlfriend while my girlfriend was still in town. Additionally, she was familiar with polyamory and had been a spare girlfriend in the past, so I figured she might be down for plating as long as it was honest plating. At this point, still have plausible deniability to keep her as a friend from the Meetup group, either way.

Dropped her off, she drove home. Next week I arranged to meet the girl at a coffee shop, then proceeded to change to a different coffee shop, stopping at a few places to chat in the truck. It was earlier, so I was making personal contact less and talking more. Was headed to the actual coffee shop for coffee and board games, and my gf called and was jealous I was hanging out with a friend without inviting her. And annoyed I had not responded to some texts while I was driving and chatting. I would have invited her given that these chicks had met previously and both knew about one another, but my gf had said she wanted to put in an 80 hour week so when I'd tried to fill our social calendar for that week, she'd said 'no'. I sent my gf a text when I left work telling her who I was hanging out with, and how late I would be out.

I invite the gf along, reminding her that she'd said no social bookings that week or she would have been invited. Prospective plate keeps smiling during the phone call, but I'm thinking that her tingles went away when she saw me act apologetic and frustrated with my gf.

Girlfriend shows up, and we play the pp's board game for like an hour and a half. Gf kicks the shit out of both of us at it. Gf goes home, I drop pp off at her car, spend about half an hour talking before she gets back into it. Touching her and holding her works but is slightly less welcomed.

My girlfriend is out of town, and I went out on 3 date nights with what had been my prospective plate. They're board game nights [just us], and she refuses to turn out unless there's a plan to play a game. She also doesn't want to actually talk any more in person, but she will text or chat online. I suck at some of the games, which I think may be killing it almost as quick as having seen me emasculated by my girlfriend.

Last night I was text chatting with pp from my phone while I was at a bar, and then while I was at the next. [I was cruising for ass, but the venues I shoot for were pretty dry and I'm probably a year of diet and exercise from being where I'd like to even start...] I got annoyed with her, and because she is almost 30, unmarried, never engaged, and says she wants a traditional marriage with kids...

I wrote that because she refuses to be silly, playful, have any empathy or humor, she's still single at almost 30 and will probably stay that way. She wrote "No, but that's a good way to get me to stop talking to you." Not only did I write that because I was annoyed with her, but I figured it might dyamite things and fix them.

Anyway, that's where it stands. If you're asking yourself why I'm bothering, the girl has one very rare thing in common with me... and she's like 70 pounds lighter than any chick I've fucked since 2011, and grabbing her ass got me pretty hung up.

I'm basically willing to give up on this bitch, but I figured I'd ask whether there are any moves to make from here in order to recover a chance at fucking her.

If no one has any good ideas, I'm just going to go no contact. Regardless, I'm going to be getting more plates.