I'm in a deep process of self-examination and discovered that I suffer deeply from solipsism. A problem I see in myself is that I take on the beliefs, behaviors and attitudes that I find attractive in women. It goes without saying here that those behaviors were very feminine in nature and decidedly un-masculine.
One such behavior that I promoted was that I valued loyalty. In an insight, I realized that while I do see a woman who values loyalty in principle as attractive, women do not find that same sense of loyalty attractive in a male.
For example, a low SMV male who demonstrated that he was unyieldingly loyal, would, in the eyes of a woman, make him seem weak and pathetic. A low SMV male can't make pussy fall on his lap, so his loyalty doesn't demonstrate value, but it instead demonstrates his low-tier status - he's loyal because what other options does he have?
From a man's perspective, a woman who deeply values loyalty is quite attractive. A woman who is a low SMV will still get sex offered to them on a weekly, if not daily basis. If they feel particularly starved, they can easily go online for a quick fix. Because most women can cheat on a moment's notice, a woman who actually values loyalty, in principle, is a huge relief to a man. This is all the more obvious when you think about what a man risks when getting married (I know, TRP doesn't advocate such foolery).
But surely women do value loyalty, right?
Yes, but not in the same principled manner than men look for in women. A woman wants a man who can choose to be disloyal, but decides to be loyal because she's worth it. He may have a long history of cheating, but if he stops all of that to be loyal to her, that's just fine. In fact, the more he changes, from being a prolific philanderer to a loyal monogamous mate, the more attractive his "loyalty" is in her eyes.
The lesson I get from this is that women want their man's loyalty to be conditional upon themselves. They want to earn it. If you acquiesce your loyalty before they've earned it, it's a huge turn off.
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