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Showing emotion or expressing your feelings

by BlackHeart89 | November 19, 2014 | askTRP

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First post in anything RP related. But I've read the sidebar and have been reading through posts and threads for about a month.

http://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/2ml90p/women_do_not_give_a_fuck_about_your_feelings/

^ Anyway, branching off from this topic, I have to ask, is expressing your feelings in the form of anger or aggravation, then followed by planning and action, still a bad idea?

I read through the thread and agreed with just about everything mentioned. But I didn't notice anyone speaking on this particular thing. I'm asking because I've had a few relationships where the women pointed out how aggravated and angry I seem to be. And it always surprised me because majority of the time, I'm constantly joking around. Regardless, they still continued to mess around with me. These were women I was in a LTR with and women that were attempting to be in a LTR with me.

Maybe my SMV was high enough to balance this out? Maybe the fact that I wasn't simply bitching, but also planning to fix the problem and actually made moves to do so (successfully), helped? Or maybe they did lose some respect for me, but since I was already having sex with them, they let it go...???


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Title Showing emotion or expressing your feelings
Author BlackHeart89
Upvotes 1
Comments 11
Date 19 November 2014 02:20 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/143804
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/2mrsjd/showing_emotion_or_expressing_your_feelings/
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Occasional passionate outbursts, not from breaking frame, can create vagina tingles. Two examples:

You find out that your neighbor, who you warned to slow down when driving their car, has run over your dog. You love your dog so if you were to punch a hole in the wall it isn't breaking frame; you are expressing your true feelings.

However, if your gf nags you about not doing the dishes and you have an outburst and yell at her then you are breaking frame because you aren't passionate about dishes; you're just letting her get to you.

[–]BlackHeart89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ahhh, I see. Thats what I was thinking. I hope to get more replies on this topic to see what majority of TRP thinks. Probably not in this subreddit.

[–]kingofpoplives1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

There isn't any problem with showing emotion. The problem is showing weakness. Emotion can actually be incredibly arousing for a woman when applied in the proper context. This is why make up sex is so hot, because of the emotional charge from the fight. Other emotionally intense stuff leads to hot sex all the time.

pointed out how aggravated and angry I seem to be.

Sounds like you let their bullshit get to you and they were gloating over successfully messing with your head. This is not good.

Maybe my SMV was high enough to balance this out?

Probably something like that. Showing anger is one of the least despised forms of visible weakness for women, so it probably didn't totally destroy you. Had they seen you cry on the other hand...

[–]BlackHeart89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you let their bullshit get to you and they were gloating over successfully messing with your head. This is not good.

Well actually, "they" where never the source of my aggravation. It was always something completely unrelated to them. Boss, co-workers, jobs in general, etc. And fortunately, if I didn't know anything else, I KNEW I was to never let anyone, especially a chick I was trying to get with, see me cry. I did that once when a friend of mine was sentenced to 10 years for some foolishness. That relationship actually didn't change any. Well... of course until I broke up with her a year later.

And thinking about it, I can see how anger could be the emotional weakness that women dislike the least. I dated one chick that use to piss me off on purpose and told me straight up, that she thought it was sexy. I was 15 at the time. I knew right then that I messed up...

[–]alpha_n3rd1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

I've had a few relationships where the women pointed out how aggravated and angry I seem to be

Definitely not good for LTR to be perceived as an "angry" person.

Anger as an emotion doesn't really benefit you in any way. It just clouds your judgment and makes you feel bad. Maybe once in a while you can act angry as a means to intimidate somebody, but you don't have to BE angry to ACT angry, and you should reserve that for serious cases since it can burn bridges.

followed by planning and action

This definitely how you should channel your anger.

Maybe what they are really trying to say is that you are a complainer.

[–]BlackHeart89[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Maybe what they are really trying to say is that you are a complainer.

HA! This! I think you may have nailed it right on the head. I explicitly remember one chick telling me that she missed hearing me complain about work. And another chick jokingly said that I complain a lot. After that, I stopped nearly all complaining. That was only a few months ago.

Damnit. How do they put up with that nonsense? I have to do better.

[–]alpha_n3rd1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

The difference between a complainer and comedian is that it's funny when the comedian complains. Maybe turn your lemons into lemonade.

[–]BlackHeart89[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Wow. Thats a good one. Thanks for that. Damn that was good. Lol The difference between a complainer and comedian....

[–]1oldredder0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

your feelings in the form of anger or aggravation then followed by planning and action, still a bad idea?

Always a bad idea. Gains you nothing, ever.

[–]BlackHeart89[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I can see someone never making any gains from showing anger or feelings in general. But do you think it always lead to a "loss"?

[–]1oldredder1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

every wasted effort is a form of loss. You can do better & if you don't you lose that opportunity.



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