I've heard this a lot, that discouraging women who sleep around is bad for women and bad for men as men want sex and complain they don't get much, yet they shame women who sleep around and refuse to date them.

Now on face value this would seem like good logic, these women share the sex around and suddenly men are happier in life and getting laid more, but yet most of you are sitting here thinking "Women are sleeping around more and more and yet I'm not getting laid". Here in lies the problem.

The average man, which includes both the above average and below average will almost as a rule find it easier to get into a relationship than to have random sex. Sex at a club requires that women have extreme physical attraction towards you and see you as high status, they want you even temprorarily to boost their ego and feel good about themselves. While relationships don't necessarily have that hormone driven attraction. They like you as a person, they appreciate your kindness, they see you as a stable provider, they know you will treat them well all these are great rationalizations to women for a relationship, but they are different to attraction. So most guys can nab a girlfriend on those skills alone, a woman who wants to settle down or maybe one just out of a relationship with an alpha who treated her poorly.

Now switch to the random sex. Lets tone the numbers down but say a club has 30 women in it and 150 men, which wouldn't be so far from the truth. For simplicities sake its the same women and men at the club every day. You all see where this is going, the 30 women will sleep with 30 of the 150 men on rotational basis, they will not sleep with the 120 men who do not fit the top level. So now these 30 women and 30 men have had 30 sexual partners. The other guys don't have any. When new women come to the club they'll still select those top 30 men. Sure sometimes a guy outside of those men might get lucky, but while the top might get with 100 different women over a few years the guys below them might get with only 5. So the rule is these top men are getting with lots of women, the rest are still left with nothing.

Back to the first example of men in relationships. Now these lower 130 guys can still usually find women to date. The woman is probably a 6 at best but they can land her. These women have nearly always been out and slept with other men before settling down. So now these poor guys have the choice of women who have had 15 or more sexual partners and they themselves have not had any casual sex. Yet they keep getting told "You shouldn't slut shame, you keep complaining about not getting sex yet you keep discouraging those women!".