I was texting with a girl I'm seeing (She is 20 and I'm in my early 30's) and somehow we got on the subject of how I treat people.

She started it off by saying, "I worry if you would be mean to me if we hung out all the time or you got bored with me." Or something to that effect. I limit our interactions mostly because I'm busy.

I replied, "Why do you say that? Have I ever treated you poorly?"

She said, "No, of course not, but I see how you treat other people."

I replied, "Examples?"

She listed off examples of how I act when we are out. That I can be short with strangers, or confrontational to people that are doing things I don't agree with. Not that I was rude or a dick, (blowing your cool isn't cool.) but I don't waste time with distractions. Or if we're at the movies and people are talking I tell them to shut up. Ect.

I asked her if she had a problem with that (not in a dickish way).

She said, "No, it makes me feel special."

I thought it was pretty interesting, but the moral to this story is that you have to maintain frame at all times. I do these things without thinking but your female is always watching how you handle the smallest of situations. From annoying people at the movies, to dealing with strangers on the street who are trying to sell you hippie bullshit. ( I remember one time we were walking downtown to dinner and some group of college kids stopped us. They were trying to get us to sign up for some charity. I was fairly rude and short with them because I don't believe in giving to charities, as most of them are a scam. If you want to help people - help people around you. But I digress.)

I would post a text log but I delete my texts fairly frequently as a matter of course.