http://www.redditlog.com/snapshots/494225

It's a long read, but I assure you it's worth your time.

Since I don't want this to get deleted by our new moderator, I'll try to put some actual effort into this post.

So, a woman comes onto /r/okcupid seeking validation about her latest encounter. She's got a bone to pick - apparently, all men are assholes and all that.

She was messaging back and forth with a guy, and they had a great connection. They both really liked where this thing was going, so they agreed to meet.

On the date, so says the woman, the guy was being a complete asshole. Complaining that she was about 15 pounds heavier now than she was in her photo, which was a few months old.

A discussion breaks out. Generally /r/OKC is a pretty pro-"female's side of the story" subreddit, so most of the people are with her. A man who would throw away a good romantic spark like that because of a few pounds is surely an asshole, everyone agrees.

She updates the story later, saying that this asshole lured her into thinking he was giving her a second chance by having sex with her, then dropping all communication with her shortly thereafter. Now /r/OKC is unanimous; surely he is an asshole if he's going to just pump and dump her like that.

Then there's a plot twist. The asshole himself discovers the thread, and tells his own side of the story. According to him, the difference between the woman's actual weight and her weight in her pictures was much more extreme than she was letting on. It was like he was looking at two completely different people.

He tells her straight up that he's not feeling this, he's not physically attracted to her, and it's just not happening. He politely does the full date, then wraps it up and leaves.

Later that night, the woman starts drunkenly blowing up his phone. Telling him he's an asshole for denying their potential for True LoveTM for something as shallow as her weight. She begs him for a one night stand, assuring him they'll do just the one fuck then that will be the end of it forever. He knows it's a bad idea, but goes with it anyway.

Predictably, she didn't actually have any interest in that being their one and only fuck. She keeps blowing up his phone. He keeps blowing her off.

Having been given two sides to the story, Reddit breaks into open warfare. A battle breaks out between Team Gurl, saying weight doesn't matter, and Team Dude, saying you should be honest with your profile.

And then in the final third-act plot twist, an internet detective discovers the woman's OKC profile. And surprise surprise, the weight difference is not even close to 15 pounds - it's more like 75 pounds. The asshole was right - the real woman and the woman she was pretending to be on her profile were two completely different people.

MORAL OF THE STORY

Hamsters gonna hamst. This story highlights some components of female behavior which we've all seen many times before:

  1. Deception: she hid the "real her" and put forward a better version to lure in a high value male
  2. Gaslighting + trickle truth: somehow 75 pounds became 15
  3. Female herd mentality: women will always come to bat for Team Gurl, no matter how wrong she is
  4. Validation seeking: it wasn't enough for her to just have a bad date and move on with her life, she had to get on the internet and have everyone assure her that she's totally in the right here and this dude was totally a shallow asshole

And that's basically all there is to say about that.

Sure, everyone catfishes their online dating profile a little bit. You have to sell yourself well, and sometimes that means putting forward a version of you that's a little better than the actual you.

But there's a second part to that sale. After you've put forward your sales pitch and you score a date, you have to then properly be the high value commodity you claimed you were in your marketing. So if you make out on your profile that you're a really cool and interesting guy, but the woman you go out with isn't feeling that the real you isn't really all that cool or interesting, tough break. You failed the sale. You can't just expect someone to see an ad for a product, buy the product, and then buy another product when it turns out the product is actually a piece of shit which doesn't even fucking work.

But this is an epidemic which plagues the online dating system. Women who are actually 6's will Myspace-angle, makeup, and Instagram themselves up to 9's, and it's impossible for men to figure out who's faking and who's the real deal.

Then hamsters like this one will go to their support group, making the stereotypical "all men are assholes" claim because men dare to prefer one type of woman over another.

How much you want to bet that these same chicks don't message anyone unless they're at least 5'11" and are making $50,000+?

Anyway, end rant. Take from this story what you will.