We've all been there at one time or another. We've gotten the LMR.

Down in that moment, we made sure to press our obvious erection up against the beautiful girl we were entranced in a kiss with. It's our first test. Her excitement quickens.

You know she knows. You push your hand to places that transcend boundaries of expectation. She is very receptive. She reacts to your touch with quick short breaths followed by surrendering body language.

She touches your chest. She feels the muscle in your triceps. Her hand lowers. You move it to brush against the outline of your cock in your jeans. She lets out a quick giggle then forces her pelvis against yours. You let her grind herself against you for a moment before pushing her slightly back from you and deftly sliding your hand down the front of her pants.

She's soaked. You pause for the briefest of moments in incredulation and look at her with wide eyes and an excited grin. Her eyes meet yours, her face is a blush and she bites her bottom lip. You kiss her again feverishly while your fingers gently discover her. In no time at all your fingers begin to alternate between teasing her firm clitoris and probing inside of her.

You cannot contain the excitement any further. You pull your hand from her panties and start to gently to tug her pants downward.

"Wait..."

"Um... I don't know if I should be doing this..."

DA-DA-DA-DUMMMM...

LMR.

I've talked to women about this moment and posed the question "WTF is going through your mind at this very moment that makes you do this? You have to be mindful of the context of your situation."

Mostly what I've discovered is that when the pants start to come off, reality of the situation strikes home. Yeah, some girls are just teases who like to test you, but most of the time women get a mental news flash that says "Whoa, I wasn't expecting this to happen." LMR seems to come from the unexpected opportunity of sex, when women haven't had a chance to think things through. They haven't fully weighed it out in their head "It feels really good, but do I want to fuck this guy?" They got caught up in the spontaneity of the moment and were relishing the carnality of the interaction, but sex? Usually, women take a somewhat measured approach to indulging in sex - and that has to do with a subconscious evaluation of SMV not yet fully taking place. It doesn't happen all the time, but I'd say the majority of the time with LMR, the hesitation is from an honest unsure feeling about it. Also, they'd like to add the disclaimer of resistance. Being too willing is kind of slutty. If they protest a little they absolve themselves of agency. That feeds into the man's rationality for testing LMR for it's validity.

And yes, false starting a sexual encounter is a pretty irresponsible and selfish, brain dead oopsie, but they're special snowflakes don't forget and they're allowed to be dumbasses. We men just have to put up with shenanigans like that - and do it with a smile. Such is our privilege.

You know in your heart of hearts this girl would absolutely love to give in to her lust and passion. You know she would enjoy the fuck out of herself. It's just a question of will she throw caution to the wind and indulge herself in the throws of sexual ecstasy?

This is the part where the Rape Culturalists completely misdiagnose the situation.

The line is that because they think we feel "privileged" - that we think we can just take what we want, not giving any shit at all about the resulting emotional state of the woman. As if we are nothing more than psychotic terminators who care only for our sexual urges and have zero human decency. We'll knowingly traumatize a woman just so we can bust a nut.

Nope that's not it. Not even close. This is wildly misandrist and defamatory.

Each one of us believes, true or not, that we possess the sexual prowess capable of transforming doubt into sublime bliss. We are going to make the end result very very positive for both parties. It's a fucking rush when we turn a girl out and make her cum buckets. We're confident that we can make that happen. That and we want to bust a nut.

So the goal isn't to cause harm, but to act like the pied piper and lead her to your secret garden of visceral pleasure. You'd like to think that your touch is so intoxicating and your words so vexing, her doubt just melts away. Being a stud is hard, but if you're good at it - well... You're the fucking man. Being the man is good. Being the man is awesome. We all want to be the man.

So you proceed to try to defeat the LMR, because just a moment ago she was as turned on as any girl you've ever seen. It's not because of a feeling of privilege, but because your engine is running hot and you believe she really does want to fuck. You want to facilitate a good time. Trying to defeat LMR is not an act of evil.

What complicates this is that sometimes women like a man to be aggressive. It turns some of them on. Unfortunately some guys think that's license to be aggressive all the time.

My personal opinion is you should take some reasonable precaution and make sure before getting too aggressive. No pussy is worth risking jail over no matter how much you think she might like it. Maybe you should learn finesse game. You should have more than one go to move.

When you're trying to lock down strange pussy, you run the risk of blue balls. If you're getting blue balls too often, then learn how to close the deal better. Hit the gym more. Dress better. Wear better cologne. Get a better rap of bullshit. Be a better lover. Increase your SMV. Sink or swim.

All sexual conquest carries a necessary component of virility and sexual efficacy. Part of being a successful player is having them love you for it. This reality just doesn't match up with rape culture bullshit.