I understand I need to stop dwelling on the fact my ex has her pick and that now I'm single and don't have the pick and that I must be a lone to sort my shit out. I think it's interesting that women wanted me more when I was in an LTR than when I'm single. I don't dwell intentionally. The sidebar gives us the activities of lifting, reading, and pursuing your own interests not only to better our SMV but to get our thoughts of our last lovers out of our heads with all the new free time of a lover gone (for those of us who realized we have ONEitis).

I haven't slept well. Been running and lifting to exhaust myself but I haven't slept well in a few months. I'm sure this also has to do with the psychology of having someone next to you in bed for over a year and then suddenly they're not there.

Does askTRP have any advice or words of wisdom to help those of us numb ourselves to the sting of having no immediate options?