Turning F-close into plate any suggestions?

Last night got an unexpected lay.

Was inside working when I get a knock on the door at around 11pm. Not expecting company I look l, it's a college girl I know. Long-story short she got into a fight with her roommates after a long weekend & a beach trip & needed to go to another place to stay tonight. Her phone was dead which is why she couldn't call before hand & showed up unannounced.

I make it clear she can't stay & am hesitant to give her a ride. She bawls I change my mind since it's only 10 minutes away. We make it to her other spot she starts openly discussing sex, I humor her she shades her ex I agree. Then with a little persuasion & some music we screw in the front seat. We pass out until almost daybreak when I get a text from a business partner. I tell her I have to go. She says to be quiet so we don't wake anyone up because there's someone else in the house so I pull off with my car lights of until I get down the street. She texts me in the early afternoon.

Any suggestions for keeping this spinning or observations?

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Yep. Non-needy, non-thirsty.

The unfortunate thing about this sort of advice is that most people take it as a strategy to employ in order to get the girl, when really it’s advice about the mindset to adopt. Don’t act non-thirsty, be non-thirsty. Don’t come off as non-needy, be non-needy. You can try to mime the correct behaviors without them being congruent with your emotions, but it’s hard to keep up. The veneer you put on is likely to crack. You’ll do or something dumb eventually, or you’ll time something wrong.

It works better if it’s authentic.

My love life currently looks something like this:

*) I’m 30, I lift, I have a high income. I have good Tinder photos that I took myself with a DSLR and a tripod. I also do night game at bars to collect numbers. Apps have a higher success rate because there’s so much more volume.

*) I slept with a 20 year old 8 on a second date about 10 days ago. I didn’t text her after. She texted me a few days ago and we had a flirty back and forth for about an hour. No definite plans for anything in the future.

*) I had a good first date with a 24 year old 7 early last week. She texted me after saying she wants to hang out again. She seems excited.

*) A week before the 20 year old I slept with a 23 year old 7. She’s a plate. We see each other every month or so for sex and a movie in bed.

*) Two weeks before that I had sex on a first date with a 22 year old 9. I was a little too into her and got needy afterward. We had a second date but it did not go well because the power dynamic was fucked once she realized how much I liked her.

*) A while before that I had sex for the last time with a plate I had kept for a few months. 28 year old 6. She was overtly rude to me so I just blocked her on SMS and Facebook and cut contact. She didn’t try to come back. I still see her around sometimes and it’s friendly.

*) I have a date with a cute 25 year old fitness girl on Saturday.

*) A cute 18 year old just matched me on Tinder as I write this. I don’t usually match with girls that young, but I have photos of me looking ripped while doing a hobby that we have in common, so I guess she liked me due to that. It’s late now, so I’ll message her tomorrow. Or maybe I’ll forget and get to it a few days from now.

There are dates in between there that I’m probably forgetting about. Sometimes I have a first date that’s good and then I honestly just forget to call the girl back because I’m busy with work or other girls. (EDIT: I did actually forget about two, so I’m going back after having finished this post to add them. I had two ONS’s while traveling).

It’s possible there’s a semi-active plate I don’t even remember about. It’s also possible that I have a date scheduled that I forgot about, who is going to get stood up if she doesn’t confirm the day of to remind me. I drop solid conversation threads on apps by accident all the time.

Sometimes I mix up their life stories, or forget their names.

As I sit here writing this I don’t know when exactly I’ll have sex again, but I know it won’t be long. I don’t have as much sex as I used to in live-in LTR’s, but I’m satisfied, and the variety is nice.

Any given girl can tell through my borderline flaky interaction patterns that I don’t care about her at all, and that’s what puts them at ease with me (except that one I fucked up with and lost).

I’d never post on here about a conundrum or a fight with any of them. I’d probably just forget about her completely 90 seconds after it happened.

If you’re not in this sort of honest to goodness don’t-give-a-fuck state of mind then the best thing to do is to invest in yourself until your SMV is high enough and you can build the abundance. Lift, develop your professional skills, make some money. Practice gaming girls and try to get laid, but don’t take it too seriously. Definitely don’t get into relationships. The longer you put women aside and focus on yourself, the more of them you’ll have later.

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Title	Turning F-close into plate any suggestions?
Author	jackandjill22
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Comments	8
Date	October 9, 2018 10:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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