TRP made me paranoid. I might have been a bit too naive before TRP. But now whenever my LTR makes some dubious statements, I think of "the worst", eg. cheating.

Some weeks back we had a fight. It's actually too long ago so I don't remember what it was about but generally that I was a bit displeased with her behavior along the line of her making excuses for not going to gym (too hot). She then asked whether I wanted some time off to experiment before we move in together because I'm displeased with her. "No I don't. We either break up or not. But no half-measure. Do you want to break-up?". "No." But this obviously triggered some alarm-bells. Does she want time off?

Fast forward to now. We now have a lease and will move in together. Yeah, it's a risk. But the world doesn't end when it fails and I can save a ton of money becasue we split the lease half-half.

So she then asks me before we move in, do I want a weekend on which we do not see each other at all. Again, alarm bells go off. Is she planning a get away with someone? I just ask "Why?". She says because we will see each other all the time afterwards. Some last chance of being alone for a weekend. Plausible. Who knows.

Again my point is before TRP, I would not have thought about that and just believed whatever she said. Which isn't ideal. But always assuming the worst isn't a good situation either.

How can I get less paranoid? Is it a confidence issue? Can you guys just really stay calm in such situations and not care or not assume the worst?