I've been seeing this plate for the last 8 months, and slowly getting attached to her. What began as a random hookup from tinder turned into us staying at each other houses 3-4 times a week. A while back, we had a big night out, with a lot of her friends and we all drank really heavily, I probably had 8 drinks. We went to this other bar, and right away she went with this other dude to get drinks, it took like 10-15 minutes and I was watching them flirting from the other side of the bar.

I fucked up majorly, as i was watching them, I started to get really angry/disrespected. Here I am committing my weekend to her, meeting with her friends, to watch her ignore me/flirt with someone else. It was probably the alcohol but I completly over reacted, stormed away from the bar without saying anything to anyone and took a cab home. she texted me to after five minutes asking me where I am and I texted back "Enjoy your flirting. We're done". I totally lost frame, appeared like a crazy, insecure jealous boyfriend type to someone I'm not even exclusive with. Totally made a fool out of myself in front of her friends and pretty much ruined the night for them.

This is getting long but I want to provide you with all the information before I proceed. My wife was a huge flirt, and ended up cheating on me twice. She was always very flirty and when I confronted her she always played it off like it was Innocent and don't be jealous and etc etc. So I guess I still harbor anger/insecurity with my women flirting with others and have a sensitive spot/feel disrespected over that. Now I know that this is completely against TRP teachings, "dont chase, replace", abundance mentality, never appear jealous, acquire more plates and so on. I guess I was just really drank and felt increasingly annoyed before I stormed off like a little drama queen bitch.

That same night, she drove to my place at the early hours and tried to talk with me/see what happened. I didn't answer and didn't interact with her. A day later she came by again, I told her I'm upset, want a few days to cool off and think about stuff. We are suppose to meet today and talk about it.

As you can probably see, I think what happened, is that this average mediocre plate, slowly but surely turned into something else, not a full girlfriend (I never committed, even after multiple pleas from her) but more than a regular plate. Just the mere fact I'm writing this long wall of text shows you that I do care and I did develop feelings. Not a full blown onetis but definitely feelings and attachment. I'm kinda embarrassed about my poor showing/utter frame collapse that evening but aside of that, my jealousy/anger shows me that I'm starting to care too much and I should probably cut it off before getting too involved.

To add insult to injury, this plate is not even that good looking, and probably my least pretty girl that I banged.

Why I should end it:

  • She's kinda fat. Not really fat/obese but definitely pudgy. Her face is ok-. I would rank her SMV at 5/10. I would rank mine 7/10. Going out in public sometimes makes me self conscious/ embarrassed.

  • Since I met her, my new plate acquisition efforts and successes have greatly diminished.

  • I feel like my readings, self improvement, nutrition, lifting regime and work all took a hit since I started to meet with her more often. When I go to her place we just talk, bang, and watch shitty tv. Its nice to wind down and get laid but I feel like I'm treading water a bit.

Why I should keep her:

  • I'm definitely holding the helms in this relationship and get to say what we going to do and when. Its refreshing and nice to slowly build and examine your frame dynamics.

  • Sex on demand pretty much, as often and however I like it.

  • Intimacy. Its nice to sleep and cuddle with another person, not gonna lie. Gives me comfort in some evenings if I feel lonely/anxious.

I think I caught minor feelings/onetits, for this plate. Just thinking about dropping her I'm filled with minor dread of sexless months and lonely nights to come.

How should I go about it?

  1. Tell her im just not feeling it anymore. No explanation. Cold and hard next.

  2. Tell her we need to cool it off and reduce the frequency of our meetings, I'm busy at work, want to focus on self improvement and etc. Then cool it off, and meet her once a week or two for a night of sex.

  3. Break up but do it in a more gentle positive way. Tell her that she is wasting her time with me, I'm never going to be her boyfriend/be committed/be monogamous to her and its in her best interest for us to stop our relationship. That way she can find someone that will treat her with respect and will be a proper boyfriend, she's not getting younger, I'm never going to commit and etc.

  4. Nothing, keep seeing her, cool it down some, but ramp up new plate search so if/when I decide to drop her I won't be in an sexual/intimacy vacuum.

TRP brothers, what is your advice?