Why does it take so long for your emotions to line up with reason?

empatheticapathetic · 2015-11-03T06:28:11+00:00

"The mind commands the body and it obeys. The mind orders itself and meets resistance." - Frank Herbert, Dune

Your emotions and your mind are intertwined. This is the male human condition. We are rational and logical but still subject to our programming. For the vast majority of your life you are taught to think and act a certain way. While we often refer to this as the "feminizing" of education it's more basic then that.

Effective what "feminizing" means is your taught to betray your own logic and personal impulses in favour of reaching to live through your emotions. Putting the "hamster" in control so to speak.

Naturally this leads to men emulating women emotionally while women are emulating men sexually.

The reason it takes so long to become stoic and logical even when you know the answer is your being betrayed by your biology.

Humans learn on a risk reward principal. You are reward with dopamine by your brain when you do something which it views as effective.

An example of this run amuck is the grossly obese individual which satisfies it's emotional pain with food. Some who when they are angry or sad who sates there pain with food because the body associates the food with growing and fuelling and rewards the person with good feelings.

So in a sense what has happened to you and most males is the public education system taught you that paying attention, expressing your feelings and being emotionally available is rewarded with praise. You brain interrupts this praise as good and releases dopamine.

You, I and everyone is addicted to dopamine. This is why people do recreational drugs, chronically masturbate or seek sexual congress, eat an abundance of crabs and simple sugars, etc.

So the reprogramming of this is really addiction confrontation but an addiction which occurs solely in your own mind. This is why you see so many fail or never escape one phase or another because mental strength is required to enforce your logic over your emotions.

It's very easy to regress into the simplicity of your impressed programming because you have lived it for 10, 20, 30 or more years.

"I have no fear, for fear is the little death that kills me over and over. Without fear, I die but once." - Brian Herbert

As the quote above states your emotions (fear) are in control and while it is in control you slowly decay. It's better to realize what it is and face it apposed to having it chip away at you. The understanding of this is simple. The internalization of it is hard.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2015-11-03T06:38:59+00:00

That's the bluepill in you, dying.

You were fed a shit-ton of programming and lies. It takes time to purge yourself of all of the poison.

Borsao66 · 2015-11-03T06:55:18+00:00

"The heart knows reason, that reason cannot fathom." - French proverb

[deleted] · 2015-11-03T12:43:21+00:00

why is it that I must approach many to get into a numbed self-control? Why can't I think myself into a state of being and remain that way?

For the same reason that reading a thousand books on fighting or riding doesn't make you McGreggor or Rossi. You have to apply the knowledge with experience, so that your brain builds those neural pathways and reinforces them with the emotions you're experiencing at the time.

Title	Why does it take so long for your emotions to line up with reason?
Author	awalt_cupcake
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	November 3, 2015 6:06 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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