Comfortable LTR, but bored of the sex. HELP!

Glennus626 · 2015-11-25T14:54:20+00:00

You are the caretaker of your own happiness. Nothing we are going to tell you here is going to solve your problem, since you're going to have to figure out what makes the most sense for you and makes you the most happy.

If you're going to stray because it makes you happy, just make sure you're smart about it. Wear a rubber, don't give up your personal information, don't fall "in love", etc.

It sounds to me like your first mate is doing her job impeccably and looks to you for guidance, but you're waffling on your decision to settle down, AFTER having a kid. We preach that a man cultivates his own happiness, but I don't think we should always forsake our honor or our commitments because we're a little bored in the bedroom. It's on you to at least make an attempt in that department.

italianredpill · 2015-11-25T14:43:14+00:00

If your LTR was whoring around or putting up some feminist bullshit/manipulating you etc. I would say run as fast as possible. But you are putting some danger in your daughter's future because you are sexually frustrated. At that age you and your LTR separating could seriously disturb her.

Try to get a plate or go fuck for pay so you can release a bit of libido and make up your mind. Just my 2 cents

OmLaLa · 2015-11-25T14:22:53+00:00

Unpopular opinion I'm sure, but LTRs are cancerous and an impending catastrophe, especially if marriage isn't your ultimate end (which it shouldn't be).

LTRs are a form of "handcuffing", which basically translates to an internal fear of being able to find a consistent source of sexual release without being in a committed relationship. It's not always the case, but 9 times out of 10 it is.

It's a sign of scarce mentality.

That said, if you feel like you can let go, do it. Move on. It'll suck ass, it'll hurt like a bitch, but the band-aid won't take itself off. It will give you incentive in place of the complacency the LTR provided.

And that's what it boils down to; TRP is best absorbed when single, as without an LTR to fall back on, you have no choice but to sink or swim.

It helps you avoid the whole "NAWALT" fallacy, as you don't have a GF to pedestalize in defense. Lastly, it saves your GF from suffering through your impending anger phase, through which you'll suddenly and vehemently show hatred towards her for reasons she can't help (Such Is Their Nature).

To LTR questions like these, I always say drop, suffer and grow. It's the best way of moving forward.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-11-25T15:15:23+00:00

You need to push the boundaries with her. Make her buy wigs and stuff. Put it in her butt or something.

adr007 · 2015-11-25T12:23:37+00:00

Get her to try something you want to do in the bedroom? Or do you need someone else entirely?

Title	Comfortable LTR, but bored of the sex. HELP!
Author	AnonymousAndLovinIt
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	November 25, 2015 11:51 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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