Please excuse the length of this post. I'm sure I could sum it up much quicker, but I want to provide as much information as possible so that others can more accurately judge the situation and decide if it is salvageable. If you take time to read the entire post, know that I really appreciate it. This could also act as a FR of sorts into how to take a girl home the first day and I'm willing to answer any questions regarding my game. While I'm not a pro, I'm not a beginner either and I was involved in PU before I found TRP and have a three digit kill count.

TL;DR - Hook up with girl first night of meeting, tons of IOIs. Meet up with her again a few days later and get mixed signals, which eventually leads to not having sex and her leaving.

I met this girl last Thursday at a concert. My buddy, who we'll call Rodney, and I caught the last 30 minutes of a concert and were kind of pissed off because we didn't realize it was an all ages show that started and ended earlier than usual. So we run into two other friends of ours (our buddy and his girl friend), who are with another guy and a girl. The girl that I didn't know is the focus of this post, let's call her Kaley. She's a HB-9 who I would rate a HB-10 because she's perfectly my type (super petite, feminine, nice aethletic body/ass, fragile).

So right from the start of meeting Kaley I'm objectifying her. I can't remember the exact intro my friend had with us but I turned it into a joke about getting to do whatever I wanted with her for five minutes and lowballing the offer. I see that there is another guy in the group and I initially figured that it was two couples who were going out, so I stopped gaming her for a bit and dropped interest. I would later learn that the other guy is one of her orbiters. My friend asks if I can give him and the three others a ride. My car would be packed past capacity but I'm fine with it, I say sure. We walk to my vehicle and make plans to go to another bar close by. It just so happens that the bar we're going to is a 5 minute walk from my place, so I make a detour to drop my car off and get them inside to do some shots.

We're drinking and listening to music and I start to notice that the other guy involved isn't her boyfriend at all. I start playfully judging her and through one of my routines I use I'm able to grab her ass and put both my hands on her tits. She responds to my boldness well and lets me do whatever I want. She's mainting heavy eye contact, giving me that "fuck me" look as I look back with my best "I'm going to bend you over" face. It's at this point that I know that I'm in. My friend Rodney is also gaming her, so at this point we go to the side and discuss our options. I'm being more bold and more in so far, so he decides to drop it and throw me a bone. Not the best natural wingman (he's sewered me before unintentionally), but he's a good friend.

We go to the bar and I'm doing everything right. We part ways at first to go to the washroom and I go get some drinks. I give her some time to breath and be on her own. After ~20 minutes I grab her hand and tell her we're going to go dance. She says she wants to find her friends and go a different direction (first shit test), but I keep guiding her and say "they're probably on the dance floor, come with me". She actually does find her friends (wow I'm a genius) and then dances on the stage for a while. I'm just sitting there staring while her and her other friend dance on the stage, I try to get eye contact a few times and then slap her ass once as she's backing up into me. After that I leave to go do other things, since there's not much I can do other than ogle her. I keep track of her from a distance, go and talk to other friends and girls and get a water. I'm waiting for an opportunity for her to get down from the stage, which she doesn't for quite some time. Eventually she's starting to get attention from other guys, so I decide I'll walk back up there, talk to the friends who are still on the dance floor and then grab her hand and told her to come with me. We go to the bar and I ask her what kind of beer she's going to buy me. I should mention that at this point she shit tests me several more times throughout the night, but I can't for the life of me remember them as I just ignored them or blew right past them. I can't remember what her shit test was here, but my response was to grab her around the waste without saying a word, pull her chin up so she was facing me, and kiss close her. We make out for a while and she's really into it. She loves when I bite her lower lip, rolling her eyes back in her head when I do so.

We make out for a while and she says that she hates public displays of affection at the bar, doesn't stop us from finding a couch and making out several more times with some light petting/fondling. It's still fairly early, so I don't try to extract her too quickly and risk rushing things. I plant the idea in her head by telling her orbiter that we're going to get pizza after and then go to my place. I want to get her to my place alone first, so when the time comes I just take her hand and bring her to the coat check line. We grab our coats and go get pizza, then start walking to my place. She asks where we're going and I say back to my place to hang out. She stops walking and says no we shouldn't, to which I just keep directing her around the waste or by the hand. She says "we're not going to have sex tonight", to which I respond "That's fine, do you think I'm that easy that I would have sex with someone I just met? What kind of girl do you take me for?" That gets a laugh from her and puts her at ease and I switch the subject to something else. It's also at this point I know we're having sex that night. During the talk on the way home I get her to admit that she's into girls, ask her if she'd ever want a threesome (which she says she would try but only travelling) and then ask her about her sexual fantasies. She responds saying she doesn't feel comfortable talking about that with someone she just met, so I take a guess at it and say she probably likes to be dominated.

We get into my place and I basically just discard the pizza, I put on some music. As we're settling in and I'm putting on music, she's calling her orbiter and inviting the other three friends from earlier over. She asks me if that's okay (another shit test) and I say of course, tell them to swing by. When she's done I immediately grab her and start making out with her, I throw her on the couch and we start going at it. She says she's not going to take her pants off, which I replay with "that's fine". I kiss her neck, bite her lip, and kiss her tits some more and I pull the pants off with no resistance, she even helps me when they get caught around her feet. At this point I'm not sure if other people are actually coming or not, so I think I might have a limited time window. I pick her up and wrap her legs around me, carry her to the bedroom, and slam her down on the bed. She has some more LMR and won't take off her panties. She tells me she's on her period and can't have sex. I say it's fine we can still try or put down a towel (a lot of my ONS have been girls on their periods lately, they're so horny for AF at that time of the month, so I'm pretty used to it). I back off and get completely naked, while playing with her overtop her panties. Eventually I start rubbing my cock against her, saying that I'm just teasing her. I do this for a minute or so and she's liking it and not stopping me, so I push it in. She tells me to put a condom on, but I get in a few good thrusts and make sure I go fully in before putting the condom on so she doesn't change her mind. We have sex with me on top for about 5-10 minutes and then I turn her around and start going at it doggystyle. I notice that she's bleeding a lot so she turns around to look and we stop. We keep making out and playing with each other and lying around, joking. She says that I'm very aggressive, to which I reply only because she loves it and she agrees. She talks about how she neeeever has done anything like this, she's never gone home with someone from the bar on the first night. She tries to probe me a bit seeing if I do it a lot and I just respond teasingly and nonseriously.

After a while we decide it's time to go to bed. Her house keys, car, and all her stuff are at her orbiters house. She gets into contact with him and I find out that he was trying to come over before but his phone died so he was knocking on the side window while we were fucking. I didn't hear him and wasn't sure if he heard us, but I can't help but feel for the guy. I offer to drive her there, to which she asks "are you sure? I could just cab." I say no I'm already going to be tired for work anyways and that it was no problem. I drive her to her orbiters house and she goes and grabs her stuff. It's the middle of winter, so I tell her to start her car and come hang out a little more. I get the feeling she is getting surprised by my niceness here, as she keeps asking if things are alright after I initiate/suggest them. We hang out in my car for a while longer, she makes plans for Sunday saying she'll be off her period and wants to hang out. I say she should come out with us Saturday and then sleepover and we'll have fun Sunday. She says she "can't stop kissing me", but eventually leaves after some prolonged making out and heavy groping.

So if you've gotten through that mountain of text, you're probably thinking "what's the problem? Seems like a sure thing" right? So I did I, but I started getting weird mixed signals throughout the rest of the weekend which turned into a clusterfuck on Saturday night.

I text her the next morning just before lunch with my standard "I had fun / hey I didn't rape you" text, which she took several hours to reply to. When she finally did reply, she apologized for the long reply time, which I thought nothing of since I figured she just had a busy day. We texted back and forth once or twice and that was it. I texted her Saturday and we went back and forth again, to which she asked where I was going. I called her a few hours later and told her to come out and teased her about what we would do Sunday night. She seemed very hesistant, short, and emotionally cold in her texts. She also seemed stand offish on the fun, saying she "might" come out and listing reasons why she might stay at home. I certianly didn't try to convince her, I just told her where we'd be going and that it would be cool if she came along.

So me and my friend Rodney are at the bar with his hot new 18 year old plate and her friends (it's her best friends birthday). We're having fun and doing whatever, I dance with the birthday girl, make out with her, and put my hand in her pants on the dance floor. She's down to have fun and a sure thing for later. Around this point Kaley starts texting me saying she "maybe" might come around 1 to see some friends there. I think I have two sure things, so I decide to hedge my bets with Kaley as she is way more my type, plus the other girl could be gamed at a later date easily. Kaley shows up later in the night and we start talking again and make out a bit. She's completely sober this time (wasn't that drunk the other night) and seems less into it at the bar, again saying she doesn't like public displays of affection or making out in the corners of bars. We have some fun and I go around meeting some of her friends. As I'm waiting at the bar, she says she'll be right back and she has to go help a friend. I don't see her for 15-20 minutes so I decide to leave, since it's late. I call her to say that we're going and that she should come over. She asks where I am and then agrees to drive to my place alone.

She comes over and sees my friend Rodney and his plate are shithouse wasted. They also decide to do drugs (mdma). She seems a little put off by this and is not down with doing it herself. I say I'm not doing any because it's 3 AM and I don't want to be awake until noon the next day, she says that I should do drugs with my friends and not to not do them on her account. I take her to my bedroom since my buddy and his plate are being complete fucktards. We talk a bit and then pick up where we left off the other night. I'm noticing she's not as into it as before and her LMR is quite a bit stronger. She's not just giving it out and then playfully going with everything, she starts to actually get visibly uncomfortable (arms recoiling to her chest) and eventually states that she's uncomfortable. I try to put her at ease and figure she's just uncomfortable having sex while my friends are around, but she keeps at it. We hear my friend Rodney's plate moaning every now and then and laugh together over it. We go through several phases of getting into it and then her getting uncomfortable and turned off again (she must have taken off and put her shit back on 3 times). Eventually it becomes too much and I don't want to continue. While I'm usually great at pushing through LMR and ASD, this is something different and I don't want to get charged with rape. She was saying she liked how I was aggressive, but felt I was pushy and a bit manipulative and that she didn't think she could trust me. At the time I tried to put her mind at ease because I perceived this as a comfort test. I said that I think she had an odd preconceived idea of the kind of person I am and was making unfair judgement calls about me. She told me she said she didn't want to have sex and that I should have picked up another girl that night. I'm trying to make her relax and kissing her a few more times, she starts getting crazier and being more demanding, until I eventually just move away from her and put my clothes on. I ask her what the hell is up and say I'm getting a super weird vibe from her and if she's not comfortable she should leave. She says she doesn't know why she's uncomfortable she just is, she doesn't know what she's feeling and she usually likes sex but she isn't into it. She starts listing off reasons why and is generally all over the place, saying things like we hardly know each other, she just met me, we've never done anythng or hung out. She feels uncomfortable coming over and mentioned she felt obligated to have sex. She also mentions a guy she likes and says that he doesn't like her back but recently said "he thinks he's falling in love with her" and then ditched her completely. She says she doesn't know why she's telling me this and I say I don't know either. She says she's being crazy and doesn't know why.

At this point I'm kind of horrified, like I'm watching a car crash, but I'm still interested in salvaging a later hook up with this girl so I just let her run herself out without getting mad or kicking her out. She says she's surprised how accepting I am of her doing this and why I haven't asked her to leave yet. I have a calm demeanor and am a patient individual. Whenever there is a problem at work I'm never the one to lose my cool, I also rarely lose my cool in physical altercations or when being subject to physical intimidation. To me my calmness is power, but I I have a feeling she might be interpretting my calmness as weakness or as a willingness to put up with her shit. I ask what now? And she says she needs to figure her shit out and she'll talk to me. I'm skeptical she'll call and think she might just be saying this to get an easy out. I walk her to the door of my place and kiss her again, but the more we kiss it's more of an obligation kiss. She's kind of into it, but reserved at the same time.

I'm so flabbergasted by this situation, as I usually get the complete opposite reaction after I lay girls once. They always text first, try to get my attention, and try to meet. We had made plans the same night to meet up and I wasn't pushy or needy in my texts or communications, although the meet was pretty soon after the first hook up (mostly because I wanted to actually have sex without interruption). She displayed so many IOIs even the second night (driving to my place alone at 3 am, being physical, going into my bedroom and almost having sex), but she also displayed a ton of IODs that weren't present the first night.

So, AskTRP, what the flying fuck happened? And if the situation is salvageable, what's my play here?

I'm thinking she might text me apologizing for her behaviour and making excuses, or she might go no contact. I'm planning on going NC for 2-3 days and then calling her to try to arrange a date. I'm sure I will get some resistance to the date idea, but I will say I want to just hang out and talk about Saturday real quick if I have to and then insist we meet up. This will put me in a weaker position investment wise, but I think I may have a decent chance of fixing things if we meet 1 on 1. I usually would just next them, but like I said early this girl is perfectly my type and I would love to turn her into a regular plate despite the crazy.