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Talking to this girl I met at bar. Going on second date. Need advice on how I should arrange everything

by askmrcia | December 04, 2015 | askTRP

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Try and keep this short, but I need some red pill advice as I'm trying to do the deed with this girl.

I'm 25 and she's 24. Both college grads, she works as a secretary at some college not making much (her words).

Met last Friday and took her out this past Monday. Went to BW3's to watch the sorry Cleveland Browns lose while drinking. Everything good so far. Easy to talk to. After the game I took her home. Got a kiss out of her (no makeout session).

We got plans to meet today to go to another bar. Here's where I need advice. She lives like 10mins from me. The bar is about 5 mins halfway for both of us that we chose to go to. I'm thinking that I should just tell her that I'm coming to get her. The reason why I want to pick her up because 1) I can get a chance to pregame at her place or 2) when I drop her off it gives me a chance to get invited inside.

Now the only drawback is that I may come across "too thirsty" or "too nice" of a guy wanting to pick her up. So Red Pill I need your help.

Extra details - she did tell me I was hot and I should ever have an issue picking up girls. I never commented on her looks. And I only texted her when we were making plans. So no small talk


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Title Talking to this girl I met at bar. Going on second date. Need advice on how I should arrange everything
Author askmrcia
Upvotes 4
Comments 11
Date 04 December 2015 04:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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[–]BeefJesusMaker4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

There's absolutely nothing wrong with going to pick a girl up. I've done it plenty of times and it has been very successful. But you can't necessarily invite yourself into her place to pregame before. Unless you talked to her about that, don't go that route. Also, try to take her back to your place instead of hoping she invites you into your place at the end of the night. You're the man. Guide the whole interaction.

One way I've successfully gotten girls back to my place is to tell them I have a dog and ask if they want to go meet it. Or tell them you play the guitar and they should come check it out. Or hell, invite her over for a drink. They know what's up. They just don't want it to be obvious. It has to be an accident. "We were going over there to meet his dog and it just happened!"

[–]askmrcia[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Here's the issue. My house burned to the ground two months ago. I'm living in this terrible temp house and I have no cable, no video games or anything. All I have is my laptop with WiFi so her coming to my house isn't the best idea at this moment.

Like seriously there's nothing at my place that will interest her at the moment. I don't even have food in the fridge lol. So my situation is a little different, but I would have taken your advice.

[–]BeefJesusMaker2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're in a temporary situation. That's no big deal. Your fucking house burned down. If she can't understand that, fuck her. Own that shit dude. You have to be cool about everything. Make a joke about it. If you don't think it's a big deal, she won't either. Remember, you set the frame. Watch a movie on your laptop or something. There's always some way to make it happen. As long as you have a bed, you're good.

[–]askmrcia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're right man good point. Thanks, I needed that advice.

[–]Senior ContributorOmLaLa1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'm thinking that I should just tell her that I'm coming to get her.

No no no no. Wrong. Over-investment.

She meets you or she doesn't come. Don't be her little "chauffeur for the evening". Grow some balls and lay down the law. You're the man so make some rules.

Now the only drawback is that I may come across "too thirsty" or "too nice" of a guy wanting to pick her up. So Red Pill I need your help.

No you don't. You knew the answer the whole time and were hoping we'd justify picking her up because that seemed like "the right and logical thing to do".

Fuck that noise. Bitch can walk if she has to.

she did tell me I was hot and I should ever have an issue picking up girls

Oh, did she tell you that? Did that feel goood? That was the fucking point. It was a seduction tactic and, from what I'm reading up there in the OP, you fell for it harder than a dense rock in freezing water. Splash and all.

And I only texted her when we were making plans. So no small talk

You pick her up like a chauffeur and you can kiss all that potential frame building goodbye and say hello to Mr. Square-Fuckin'-One.

[–]askmrcia[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

No you don't. You knew the answer the whole time and were hoping we'd justify picking her up because that seemed like "the right and logical thing to do"."

That's not true at all. I didn't know the answer. I was looking for a way to get over to her house or get back to her house. And with us living in such close proximity of each other it was a thought I had.

Oh, did she tell you that? Did that feel goood? That was the fucking point. It was a seduction tactic and, from what I'm reading up there in the OP, you fell for it harder than a dense rock in freezing water. Splash and all."

Wrong, I didn't fall for anything. All that line told me was that she was somewhat interested.

Fuck that noise. Bitch can walk if she has to." LOL she actually walked to the first bar from her house the last time.

You pick her up like a chauffeur and you can kiss all that potential frame building goodbye and say hello to Mr. Square-Fuckin'-One."

That I kind of agree with. Just wasn't sure how it would look, but thanks for the reply

[–]Senior ContributorOmLaLa2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, I think you and u/BeefJesusMaker are right. I overanalyzed your situation a bit. My bad. We still cool?

[–]askmrcia[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yea ofcourse. Its a tricky subject because me going to her can be good or bad depending on the situation.

[–]dgillz0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Give her zero wiggle room when discussing logistics via text (or anywhere for that matter). Tell her, do not ask, that you are going to XYZ bar and she should be there at 2:17 or some very specific time.

Avoid responses like "do you want?", "Let's hang out", "Sometime Sunday afternoon" like the plague.

[–]askmrcia[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yea I have been avoiding all those terms and I told her we were meeting at XYZ to watch the Cavs and drink

[–]dgillz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Excellent. {said in a Terminator voice}



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