How to be interested in others?

TheRedPillOverdose · 2016-01-31T15:36:05+00:00

Don't have an answer to you but I've felt like asking this same question before. Especially being an introvert when I talk with extroverts I often feel like they are just stupid and the conversation will never lead to anything of actual interest but then I sometimes also think that maybe im just putting myself on a high horse and have missed a lot of great information or opportunities by essentially not bothering with a lot of people.

ProtoPill · 2016-01-31T16:45:53+00:00

The following may be harsh, but I hope it helps you look at this issue in a different light. You are not interested in others because you are not interesting.

Indeed, when describing yourself you tellingly lead with this:

I have a good job, get well paid, I do workout, RP reader since almost 2 years. My life is heading good direction.

From this, I gathered that you follow a monotonous routine of being well paid and going to the gym. I also gathered from your tone that, despite your attempt to deceive yourself otherwise, you are introverted. Your words own betray your true nature:

I don't care about others so what are you suppose to talk about? And why? How can I approach this so I can change my perspective? Should I really?

The people you interact with are not interesting because you are not interesting. There are hordes of interesting people doing interesting things. It's just that you have to live an interesting life to find them. The groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become.

/u/GunPostal below said it well:

I realized that having a rich experience in life with ALOT of stories to tell is very important for emotional health and your medicine against old age because these memories are going to be your companion and currency to trade with other older people for their companionship.

If you want to be interested, be interesting.

Josewasframed · 2016-01-31T16:12:48+00:00

It is problematic when comes to girls as well. If I meet one up all I think is getting out of there because it seems like a waste of time.

If it seems like a waste of time, then maybe it is. Follow your gut.

I know you titled this, "How to be interested in others" but how are any of us supposed to help you if you refuse or have no inclination to be interested in others. You are either interested or you're not. It's that simple.

You're not alone. There are millions of people in this world happy just being by themselves. They take no joy in talking to others or listening to others' stories. That is fine. You just have to accept whether you care about that kinda stuff or not. If you don't then don't force yourself to try to like it. But clearly by making this post you might have an inkling of some desire to get interested in others, so if that is true, then try working on your listening skills.

GunPostal · 2016-01-31T16:32:11+00:00

I suggest you read day bang by roosh v (link at side bar at TRP game). It will give you some insights on how to create a meaningful conversation.

I also have this problem but I am overcoming it now because I now beginning to understand that everyone is interesting regardless of their status and background.

Like you I also have a good life like I feel nothing more is needed but in my job where I interact with many people, I realized that having a rich experience in life with ALOT of stories to tell is very important for emotional health and your medicine against old age because these memories are going to be your companion and currency to trade with other older people for their companionship.

[deleted] · 2016-01-31T17:07:15+00:00

Change your view about conversation. Its not always meant to be intellectual etc.

I get where you're coming from, I was the same. It all comes down to realizing that most lives are too busy to engage in deep shit during cconversations and that's why some people think what's the point of interacting if you're not getting something?

The only way to get interested is to let go of your ego. TRP creates an us vs them mentality which I absolutely hate. Learning about life is important, yes. But without realizing the main purpose of all information which is to use it effectively to your career/life to make your life better. Realize the real point of interacting with people! Its the give and take of emotions, and trust me people who seem the dumbest in most social settings are sometimes the most amazing people ever.

Fuck all the hate on mainstream movies etc. Everything that people claim is fucking pretentious. Be normal and be fucking proud of it. Kill that ego

htbf · 2016-01-31T19:08:22+00:00

Are you reading books ? About anything else than TRP ?

Title	How to be interested in others?
Author	Stonish
Upvotes	14
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Date	January 31, 2016 3:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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