Dating a girl who acts like a red pill male

Smigg_e · 2016-02-28T23:58:14+00:00

Lmao dude she's human. Stop reading so far in to this red pill shit. I'm tired of the misinformation this thread teaches about people in general. Women aren't black and white like that. She hasn't opened up to you. Obviously she has her guard up play it cool if you like her if you don't then who gives a shit.

thiasus · 2016-02-28T23:50:09+00:00

...do you even like hanging out with this chick?

EdvardMunch · 2016-02-29T21:26:30+00:00

I don't think she's going to want to be around you very long. You sound like a total beta. You're shocked that she's operating like a normal human being instead of what you decided was the ideal, a subservient, emotional, sexually available woman. If she's as independent as she sounds, you're not going to get far with her and she's going to realize she can do better than someone who has expectations for what all people should behave like.

cloudstryfe · 2016-03-01T00:45:44+00:00

Yo the best thing you can do is have confidence. A lot of rp tools won't help a relationship where the girl far outshines you in smv and confidence. In this care just be yourself， be the best version of you， have clear boundaries， and have fun. Remember a lot of RP is designed to fix relationships that are already broken. Unless she's turned you into a beta， there's nothing wrong with this relationship. Don't fuck yourself over with a quality woman because of paranoia.

Josewasframed · 2016-03-01T18:08:06+00:00

This post is abnormally full of downvotes.

dottywine · 2016-07-18T22:31:33+00:00

You can be like this while on your period. Yes, women are individuals. It sounds like she is probably an ESTJ personality type. You probably should break up with her and find a woman you can handle. First, ask her if she's happy with your relationship. She is looking for a man who will improve her life and she sounds like she will clearly let you know if you aren't. It doesn't sound like you do but you didn't give us all the info.

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Josewasframed · 2016-02-28T23:49:22+00:00

Are you attracted to someone like that?

Personally, I'm not into girls that act that way. It's like they have no femininity.

[deleted] · 2016-02-29T00:07:07+00:00

She is a dominant woman who is looking for submissive men. They are rare but both exists. Is my guess.

qwertyuiop111222 · 2016-02-29T18:17:31+00:00

Check the MBTI. Read descriptions for ESTJs and ENTJs. I know some and from your post, it describes her to a T.

ENTJ Source: http://www.truity.com/personality-type/ENTJ/relationships

ENTJs are direct and commanding communicators, often with a clear idea of what needs to be done and and a take-charge attitude toward organizing people and projects. ...They communicate their vision and their plan to implement it in a logical, task-oriented way. ENTJs see flaw in ideas and plans quickly and give critique freely. They enjoy analyzing ideas, but are ultimately oriented toward action; they want to integrate information, formulate a long-term plan, and then move forward.

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In relationships, the ENTJ is a commanding and challenging partner. ENTJs have high expectations for themselves and for their partners, and want a mate who will put in the time and effort necessary to create a successful life together.

ESTJ Source: http://www.truity.com/personality-type/ESTJ/relationships

ESTJs are practical, action-oriented communicators. They often assume control and communicate to organize and determine what needs to be done. ESTJs are clear about expectations and procedures; they explain the necessary steps as well as how and when tasks should be completed. They are open to debate and criticism, but want rules to be followed and work to get done. They are focused on tasks and results and have little patience for deviation or nonconformity.

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In relationships, the ESTJ is dependable, responsible, and opinionated...They can be domineering, and often want to dictate schedules and procedures for the people around them. Decisive and strong-willed, they are sometimes impatient with their partners' feelings.

Overall, I'm in agreement with u/thiasus here.

...which was confusing liking a woman as a person and wanting to be in some kind of sexual or romantic relationship with her.

Just because you respect someone, doesn't mean you should be boning them as well. She might make an excellent wing-man for you (and you for her), and you two might be good business partners too. But doesn't mean you've got to bone her as well. And in general, female ENTJ and ESTJ make poor RPWs; being in a relationship with her might end up making you feel like a beta, and thus might be harming you in the long-run.

DarkisKnight · 2016-03-01T02:14:58+00:00

It's possible she's a high functioning sociopath. Either that or she grew up in a household that supported her being this way. You're only recourse if you want to continue dating this girl (but why would you?) is to have a rock-solid frame. Tease her mercilessly to lower her self-esteem around you. Take charge as much as possible, when she does something you don't like, pull away immediately and withdraw attention. Go dark triad and wear her out so that she lacks the energy to stand up to you. Don't allow her to get enough sleep or otherwise wear her out physically and do it all under the guise of doing what's best for her. Shakespear's "The Taming of the Shrew" is good inspiration here. You need to wear her down and establish dominance before it's too late. Like most things, once you're in the hole it's even harder to get out.

But fuckin' hell, she sounds like a lot of work, why not move on to someone who's less maintenance?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-02-29T09:45:01+00:00

Very often, women who are beautiful and intelligent/competent are all hard and crunchy on the outside, but with a soft, hot, pink center. They will shit test the FUCK out of a guy to make sure he's worthy. Then, they will submit.

She seems to have you playing defense, when you need to be playing offense. If you want to bang her, you need to start being dominant with her. Because all that "Chick acting like a hard-ass man" works...right up until they run into an actual man.

Fuck Ronda Rousey only ran into Holly Holm and got knocked out. Remember all that bullshit about her fighting Mayweather? She would have gotten destroyed. Take the top female tennis player. She would lose to the top 100 or 200 men, in straight sets. Same thing here. You're intimidated by her. If you want her, you need to conquer her.

Title	Dating a girl who acts like a red pill male
Author	EdvardMunch
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Date	February 28, 2016 11:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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