Hey guys,

I've beens seeing this girl for over a month. We had sex and she's a kind person. She became increasingly needy, wanting my affection in public (ex: holding hands, etc) which I didn't want to, as I didn't want people to perceive her as my GF (working towards a ADGAF attitude now).

Anyway, I soft-nexted her and only see her in passing once a week, for the last two weeks. I went over to hers for a quickie and found out she had been texting other guys flirtatiously and using tinder. I talked to her about it, saying it was either them or me. She uninstalled tinder.

I'm now focusing on myself and my SMV to make sure she'll rather stick with me than a random guy off the app.

The issue is, I think she got a bit pissed about being nexted and became more unpredictable and wild. She is less needy now- a good thing but I'm uncomfortable at her new-found confidence she gained from the fifty or so people hitting on her from Tinder.

So I'm looking for guidance. Is this is a normal phenomenon? Are there methods to keep a plate exclusive to you? Was a soft-next too strong of a move? Personally because of my ego, I don't like it when plates/flings think they have options to replace me.

TL;DR- Soft-nexted an obedient plate, she went on tinder and got a ridiculous confidence boost. Feel like things are about to go out of control.