/u/drrrrrr posted a topic today Incel is a retarded term. Celibate or not, it is completely voluntary. And while he's not entirely wrong, it misses the point of the term completely. His post is littered with platitudes and misses what it means to be involuntarily celibate. And it misses why we're here.
While this advice- "you have the power! You hold the keys to change!" - Sounds nice and self-helpy, it actually just digs a deeper hole for those who are actually involuntarily celibate.
Let's first visit the term involuntarily celibate. At first glance, you'd think on a subreddit dedicated to learning how to attract women, we'd be of the belief that, indeed, nobody needs to be celibate, if they just do a little work, anybody can have sex.
But the word "involuntary" indicates that this celibacy isn't by choice. That doesn't preclude that solving celibacy isn't a choice- it just means that the path isn't clear.
drrr's post reads like somebody trying to solve depression by saying "being depressed is a choice, just be happy instead!"
The fact is, if it were entirely voluntary, incels would have sex. So there's another component to it that can't be ignored. Women have to want to have sex with you for you to stop being an incel. You can't just walk out your door one day and say "I've decided not to be an incel. Time for sex!"
Yes, indeed, people do hold the keys to getting out of the rut- /r/theredpill is a good place to start. You do have the power to get yourself out of it. BUT that doesn't mean it's easy, and it doesn't mean most people know how.
And there is one final point I want to make- sometimes, no matter how hard you try, no matter how much work you put in, you are going to have dry spells.
Some regions truly do suck.
So don't go into hating yourself when that happens. Instead, consider the variables that you can change. Can you go to the gym more? Can you travel to other areas? Perhaps for just a weekend? Have you tried different game (day game instead of night game?)
Be pragmatic. Approach this like you would any other problem. It can sometimes take a long time before you break through to the other side, but once you're there, things get a lot easier. The confidence of getting laid can turn into a hundred lays very quickly.