Taking pussy off the pedestal

[deleted] · 2016-04-10T15:49:00+00:00

The most powerful items in your repertoire are "because I want to" and "no."

Why are you staring at me? Because I want to.

Can you change your music? No.

Women will respect you more for sticking to your guns. Right now they probably don't know what to think about you, and that's because you don't know what to think you either. If you're going to eye-fuck a woman, then do it because you want to. Act with conviction. By averting your eyes first, you are playing the fickle, submissive role. Women can't respect submissive men. This all comes down to how airtight your frame is.

I have done extreme immersion where I just force myself to do the opposite anyway and ignore the glares and all, but I think I'm just coming off as socially unskilled. I just want to stop giving so many fucks about simple things and letting fear ruin my life.

It sounds like you've already been practicing TRP a lot. You just need to keep practicing. My advice would be to rediscover the meanings of "desire" and "no." Practice satisfying your own desires and more frequently telling people "no." Every time a woman catches you staring, keep staring and send her a subliminal message: "impress me." She will avert her eyes first, I promise. It happens every time. Not only that, but like fucking magic, she will start trying to impress you. Shift the burden of courtship from yourself to her, and watch her stumble to win you over. This is AWALT in action.

With enough practice this shit becomes automatic, exactly like with getting phone numbers and closing the deal. You just have to make sure you're taking the right steps to ensure success. Happy hunting, brother.

refusewool · 2016-04-10T15:12:55+00:00

Have you read NMMNG? It has a large emphasis on not seeking the approval of others (which is what this boils down to).

beachbbqlover · 2016-04-10T16:13:26+00:00

When I was single for 3 months I initially thought "oh cool, totally putting a hot chick on my computer wallpaper."

Not putting it on a pedestal is exactly that. Stop valuing women more highly than men just because you're willing to bang anything that moves.

If you're still on Facebook, be willing to friend a dude that looks like he's putting in the effort. Like content for more than simply whether or not the poster possesses a vagina. Post tactful, valid arguments when people post stupid shit. I actually still have facebook just because it's helping me realize this.

Find rolemodel dudes on the internet. Figure out your ethos, your look, hit the gym. Figure out your finances. But more importantly, stop fucking giving a shit when some vapid idiot whines about irrelevant shit. Her opinion isn't any more (or less) relevant because she's a she.

I took the wallpaper down off my computer, because pretty isn't important enough to get the most pristine ad real estate in my house. Right now, it has an image of someone struggling up a cliff.

[deleted] · 2016-04-11T00:01:44+00:00

If you discover yourself and are satisfied with what you are doing, then you won't care what others say. A lot of these girls you see now you won't see later in life so why attack yourself over that. Stop caring what other people think or care about you. You'll never be satisfied in life that way.

Carbone · 2016-04-11T04:55:16+00:00

Keep progressing.

Thrust the process, it's normal to feel this resistance you're going against social conditioning. One day it will all click by itself.

Continue your journey, this unease feeling is only the beginning. It's a good problem to have

Title	Taking pussy off the pedestal
Author	RedPharaohRising
Upvotes	10
Comments	11
Date	April 10, 2016 2:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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