Obviously one of the most important terms in feminist newspeak is "slut shaming," deployed whenever anyone has the nerve to suggest that maybe women shouldn't try to see how many dicks they can ride while in their 20's.

The MRA crowd, not unlike the feminists, have developed their own newspeak, with the term "virgin shaming" to describe how society treats men who have not had sex.

I imagine most readers here already understand the evolutionary reasons why the so-called double standard of "promiscuous men=studs, promiscuous women=sluts" exists, so I won't explain it here.

What I've been reflecting on recently is that the converse of this "double standard" actually benefits women and harms men.

You see, if a man is a virgin, it is often assumed the reason is because he can't get laid. There is just as much social pressure (probably even more, actually) for men to go out and have sex as there is for women to remain chaste. But here's the thing, going out and getting laid takes effort for men. For starters, it helps to look good and be confident. This can cause anxiety for men who don't naturally have those traits. If you approach a women and you're socially awkward or unattractive, you may very well be called a "creep." So we compensate by developing confidence, game, having a good life, lifting, wearing good clothes, etc.

While feminists like to complain that women's virginity has been fetishized, this actually yields benefits, because no one (outside of some "sex-positive" feminists themselves) shames women for being virgins. In fact, in this day and age, a woman remaining a virgin till marriage is impressive. Some here would even call such women (when attractive) unicorns. Unless you're truly ugly, few will question whether you could get laid if you're a woman and still a virgin. Unlike their male counterparts, even moderately attractive women usually get hit on on a fairly regular basis, and have plenty of opportunities to sleep with men of equal or higher SMV. Plus, if they're in their prime, they probably have lots of female friends who are sleeping around, creating pressure on them to follow suit.

Furthermore, thanks to modern feminism, the stigma on women for not being a virgin at marriage and even sleeping around is as diminished as it's ever been. It's a win-win situation. If you remained a virgin or have a low partner count, you might find a high-value man to marry who values the restraint you displayed, and statistically your marriage is more likely to succeed. Even if you're a woman who rode the CC in your younger years, you can still find a nice beta bux provider to marry (and still maybe get some alpha dick on the side).

Now, unlike the MRA's, I don't think we should force society to stop "creep shaming" or "virgin shaming" men. These are unfortunate realities, but their existence goes deeper than just outdated social standards. Instead, men need to maximize their SMV, no matter what their intended outcome is. If you don't want to be rejected as a creep, don't be one. Lifting, good hygiene and clothes, and developing social skills will go a long way towards this end. Even if you intend to remain a virgin till marriage for religious reasons or simply don't want to spin plates, you should still maximize your SMV so that nobody doubts you're truly living the way you do by choice. Even if you don't intend to be crushing as much pussy as humanly possible, you need to look like the guy that easily could if he wanted to. This is the lesson I've been learning.

TL;DR: Even moderately attractive women can just as easily as not remain virgins or keep a low partner count and people will understand they did so "by choice" and respect them for it, but sluts can get by just as easily. For men, being a virgin is not viewed as a choice, but a consequence of not being attractive to women. Women benefit from the converse of the sexual "double standard."