Normally I don't bother watching shitty daytime TV shows, but thats the only thing playing in the waiting room of the office where I work, and this episode of Divorce Court really got my attention since I've been thinking about RP theory a lot lately.
Video Summary: In this episode, a homosexual man and a homosexual woman end up falling in love and end up in a relationship lasting a few years. Now while I have my doubts about the origins of the relationship and if it is possible, for the sake of the discussion, lets say that this is what happened. The man, takes up the role of the feminine/submissive partner and the woman takes the role of the leader and provider.
While neither are perfectly RP or BP, both have distinct actions and attitudes from both camps.
RP actions from the man:
- Puts extra effort into his appearance (I'm pretty sure he is wearing eye-liner.
- Takes care of cooking/cleaning/child raising.
BP actions from the man:
- Using "on a break" as an excuse to cheat.
- Letting other men orbit him for selfish gains.
RP actions from the woman:
- Working outside of the home.
- Keeping game on to attract other women thus keeping pressure on her mate.
BP actions from the woman:
- She certainly could not maintain frame.
This made me think that as long as the man does not become resentful (which I don't think happened to the man in the episode) a complete role reversal could work within RPW theory since it would be keeping in line with the Captain/First Mate dynamic.
Which brings me to the touchy subject of our Feminist Sisters. I think they could find happiness in the captain role, as long as they are not hypocritical about their desires. And by that I mean, they don't complain about women's rights in one breath and then in the next talk about how they are waiting for a man who is going to buy them designer shoes. If a woman is going to find happiness in the role of the leader, she must own every aspect of it, not just the points that favor her. She must also find a man who is willing to play the role of the First Mate, which may be a harder task, but certainly not an impossible one.