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Coming Out | A Sexual Strategy

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August 17, 2014
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Some of you may remember one of my previous posts Coming out | What the Hell Were You Thinking? or at least seen it hanging out at the bottom of the front page (waiting on the day we get a second page). In that post I advised against indiscriminately outing one's self, a principle I still strongly abide by. However I think it's time to discuss the other side of the coin. What are the advantages to coming out. Putting aside all the feel good crap about being true to yourself, there are real reasons coming out can help improve your game.

Now what a lot of people will immediately jump to is 'advertising'. Being out makes it easier for other gay people to find and identify you. Certainly the effect of this cannot be ignored, but compared to a decent pick on grinder, the results may be lack luster and I don't see it as worth the effort.

The real benefit you stand to gain from being out is higher SMV. Since the social movement to come out of the closet gained traction in the later part of the last century, being openly gay has been associated with courage and bravery. Similarly any attempts to remain unannounced are viewed as cowardice or at least immaturity. Because of this the early age and extent of a gay guys 'outing' is worn like a merit badge for many.

Being out in a broad manner reinforces an image of confidence and avoids any hints of shame surrounding one's sexuality. It's no opening line, it doesn't on it's own build attraction, but it fits nicely as a portion of the alpha persona.

For this reason it's important to weight the positive sexual benefits of coming out when making a choice.


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Title Coming Out | A Sexual Strategy
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Upvotes 9
Comments 10
Date 17 August 2014 10:38 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/163344
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[–]omnipedia8 points9 points  (7 children) | Copy

Being out is pretty much table stakes these days. Dating someone who isn't out involves a lot if hassle and ain't nobody got time for that.

[–]somekook2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy

No dick for closet cases. Not worth the hassle.

[–]awesomesalsa1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Define "closet case."

I'm out on a need-to-know basis, and very few people need to know.

[–]somekook-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Congratulations, you are a closet case.

[–]awesomesalsa0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

K

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

I disagree with your blanket dismissal of awesomsalsa and others who would employ case by case discretion as closet cases. Indiscriminately waving the banner of your sexuality lacks the same amount of forethought as completely hiding it.

In my mind there is a large distinction between someone who chooses to withhold information about their sexuality for professional/personal reasons and someone who does so out of shame.

[–]somekook-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're entitled to your opinion. I'm also entitled to keep my hot, throbbing man meat in my pants.

[–]awesomesalsa-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Define "isn't out."

[–][deleted] 1 points1 points | Copy

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why does discretion ruin sex for you?



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