I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have sex maybe 1x a month now. He is fucking phenomenal in bed. He's one of a few people who can give me a ~30 second long orgasm (if they're actually giving me an orgasm).
Typically, this would be a huge deal for me and I would just say, "bye", but I get mine regularly as we're open. We occasionally talk about the people we've had sex with recently (maybe that's my mistake?). He's a great guy, which is why I'm still with him. Smart, funny, sociable, sexy. Same about me. We get along great and I love spending time with him. We want to have children together a little later in our lives. I'm mid 20s and he's early 30s.
Lately, I've been thinking of him as a roommate and a great bud that I occasionally fool around with. I've had plenty of people like that in the past.
When I do the typical RP shit, he gets upset and pulls away, and his desire towards me drops even more. He never pulls any shit tests, I'm not a whiny bitch, and we're both solid in our lives and our confidence.
If I act like a beta bitch, he acts more affectionately but never wants to actually have sex (in any way, shape, or form).
He's admitted that he's biologically bored with sex with me. I know he's got a good sex drive because he lays other guys. It's just me that he doesn't want to have sex with.
I'm definitely sexually liberal. I fucking love threesomes, kinky shit like BDSM (dominant or submissive), exhibitionism, daddies, twinks, jocks, muscle worship, women, hairy, smooth, whatever. Hot is hot. But nothing I've tried seems to get him going.
I know that he likes fucking when there's a chance that he'll get caught. We used to fuck 2 or 3 times a day in the shower of his parents' beach house. I tried to get him to fool around on a hike that we went on recently, but he wasn't interested in at all. I also made him dinner on our balcony and initiated there, but no luck.
He also gets off on other guys getting off. He can't orgasm unless I've already shot in/on/near him. Sometimes more than once.
He says that he feels guilty that he's bored with me. Should I just tell him, "If I want it and you're not into it, give me a blowjob."? I feel like I'm missing something incredibly obvious but my ltr has blinded me.