Gay 21-year-old guy. Boyfriend is pretty much the same as me. Hetero-passing (even though if someone asked we'd obviously tell them.) I've begun reading many of these posts and agree with a lot of what your guys are saying. The only idea I'm not really sure where the majority of people on here stand is when talking about people with feminine energy/characteristics. Is it to be believed that these people are of less value than straight/sexually dominant men? Also, I noticed that this sub has a pretty substantial amount of theory on gay men. Yet I haven't actually understood if, to most of you, gay men are less human/valuable than a more alpha/dominant/straight man. I find the discussions on gender roles/norms to be fascinating. I used to be a bit of a misogynist (not something to be proud of.) But sometimes I double-back and question myself. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and we take turns topping each other, and in my experience has been a 70/30 enjoyment experience. Topping/Bottoming respectfully. Any insight on this sort of dynamic?