I feel like unless I got a vasectomy, there's no way I could ever trust anybody in a relationship if it comes down to contraception. What to do?

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January 12, 2019

I'm a 22 year old male and I wouldn't want to be with any woman who would not absolutely, without a doubt get an abortion, but I feel like no matter what I would always have a paranoid niggling in the back of my mind. Men have absolutely no reproductive rights and are totally at the whim of their partner and that scares the shit out of me. As much as I'd like to be with a woman, I feel like I could never totally trust anybody with that unless all risk was removed from the start. Any advice?

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Title I feel like unless I got a vasectomy, there's no way I could ever trust anybody in a relationship if it comes down to contraception. What to do?
Author FastYaw
Upvotes 85
Comments 89
Date 12 January 2019 05:45 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/163845
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/af9oda/i_feel_like_unless_i_got_a_vasectomy_theres_no/
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[–]lokilis161 points162 points  (9 children) | Copy

Wear a condom

[–]kylerosa2158 points59 points  (3 children) | Copy

And either empty it or flush it down the toilet when you’re done to prevent spermjackers.

[–]Fonzoon15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. I frequently check the area before I hook up to lower the chances of spermjackers

[–]DatingTank8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Dont flush it, it ruins the plumbing

[–]Iceklimber4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Horseradish intensifies

[–]TigerXtrm5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy


[–]MNCPA6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wear a hefty bag

[–]GucciGangBucks-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Correct me if I’m wrong but Vasectomies are reversible now ? If you can afford it is there really anything to lose besides probably 1% chance surgery risk.

[–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

In some countries it is not prioritized to do reverse vasectomy, so it is very difficoult. Also you get antibodies against the sperm, and the sperm ”tubes” grow together so there is no ”hole”. Also it would be very expensive. It is probably better to retrieve sperm from balls by doctor and then inserted into the woman. This would cost about 10-20k usd. This is what doctor told me when I did the surgery a few days ago.

[–]superbat3372 points73 points  (5 children) | Copy

Uh dude you’re 22, don’t get a vasectomy just wear a condom you have a lot more maturing to do and might eventually Change your mind

[–]rustyspurs875 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Vasectomies can be reversed through surgery as well though. The average success rate is well over 50%. Not that what you said is wrong necessarily, he is quite young for a vasectomy, just thought this was a good place to share some knowledge.

[–]Atheist_Utopia19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

You really want to take that chance, risking the inability to get children for life?

[–]rustyspurs8713 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

There’s risk in everything. Maybe OP doesn’t get a vasectomy, the condom breaks and he knocks some chick up and then she makes him pay child support but never lets him see his child. I’m just playing devils advocate though.

[–]L0nerizm1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Snip snap snip snap!

[–]allfunkedout1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm 36, and I was sure at 22...OP may very well not change his mind.

[–]Endorsed ContributorFeralRed101 points102 points  (2 children) | Copy

Iron Rule of Tomassi #5

NEVER allow a woman to be in control of the birth.

[–]Anacondainahonda14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

NEVER allow a woman to be in charge of birth control.

Fixed. The original sentence does not make sense. No man can control when or how a woman gives birth, it is not a voluntary function. His linked explanation is correct though.

[–]MrFiles-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

How has no one up voted this till I did

[–]DREADC0RSAIR30 points31 points  (5 children) | Copy

Condoms, and even then still pull out my friend

[–]--23--- 1 points [recovered]  (11 children) | Copy

Get a vasectomy then.

[–]Khiv_19 points20 points  (4 children) | Copy

Lmao right? Came here just to say that. It won't reduce your T, and if it does just you get a free pass to inject yourself with it.

[–]--23--- 1 points [recovered]  (3 children) | Copy

Funnily enough, I had a vasectomy at 22, reversed at 38, and on TRT since 43. Now that I've made 2 babies (the second due in July), it's time to get another vasectomy.


[–]driticool2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Would you recommend getting a vasectomy while young just for freedom of condoms but still knowing I would like to get it reversed somewhere around 40? And why are you on TRT, is it because of vasectomy? I thought it shouldn't affect T level?

[–]chasethebanks1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Don’t vasectomies lower Testosterone?

[–]MYMOUTHISNUMmn4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Studies done on animals show it does decrease traits that are predominantly associated with testosterone.

[–]DirtyBastard136 points7 points  (2 children) | Copy

Even if they did'nt, does any guy like the idea of someone messing with his junk?

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

If it’s a girl yeah

[–]Lumby14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

I love my vasectomy. The peace of mind and control it gives me over my reproductive rights were absolutely worth it.

I banked some sperm beforehand just in case. This fact helps keep plates that lean towards LTRs happier.

It doesn't mess with testosterone at all. My last test results were above average for T.

[–]FastYaw 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

That’s awesome and something I had in mind. How old were you when you got snipped? And how much does the storage of your little soldiers cost?

[–]Lumby10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

I was 25 and would have done it sooner if the sperm banking wasn't so fucking expensive. I paid for 10 years upfront and it cost nearly $3k. Here's a link to my local sperm banks pricing page for reference: http://www.fertile-future.com/services/pricing#semen

Just as a warning, you'll read online of people that get a lot of pain and discomfort post vasectomy from epididymal obstruction. It's definitely a real thing that varies from person to person. For me its just means my nuts are more sensitive for a couple days of the year. Talk to your doctor about it if you're concerned.

[–]TravelingShitLord 1 points [recovered]  (6 children) | Copy

Do you want kids?

Yes, freez sperm or use condoms.

No, snip them boys and be free. Still watch out for STDs. Also, never ever tell anyone that you're snipped.

[–]dpgproductions6 points7 points  (5 children) | Copy

Out of curiosity why not tell anyone?

[–][deleted] 40 points41 points  (0 children) | Copy

  1. Them hos will tell you they are preggers (obviously by someone else). So hold back for them cunts and drop the bomb. I had to do it twice. Twice i saw the look on their face. Priceless.

[–]EminemLovesGrapes15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy

You can use it to escape entrapment.

Banged with a chick bareback (or not)? She drops the "I'm pregnant" bomb on you?

You drop the "shooting blanks" bomb on her.

[–]cptkong2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like fun! Hahaha

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

Vasagel. New style vasectomy that lasts 10 years takes 15 minutes to install and cost hardly any money but needs funding.

[–]FastYaw 1 points [recovered]  (2 children) | Copy

Yeah, that was announced something like 10 years ago. I never heard of it since.

[–]Bing_Bang_Bam5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

It's interesting. It was actually developed in the 70s in India by this really smart scientist guy. They are currently trying to do human trials in the USA but it's incredibly expensive to get certification by the FDA.

Apparently big pharma thinks that there's no money in male birth control. There is more money spent on pet birth control research.

I have also heard that once it gets released it might completely change society because then most 18 year old boys will get it because it's so fast and cheap and therefore still be in charge of most reproduction.

Many doctors today won't even let men get vasectomies unless their wives sign off on it first.

Truly astounding. And they claim that they are oppressed.

[–]Brando19750 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thats funny pelco 9"

[–]popthatpill0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Vasalgel is a scam. (They've been plugging it for nearly a decade and they still have nothing to show for it - if that's not a scam, then what is?)

[–]RedPillAlphaBigCock13 points14 points  (4 children) | Copy

There's actually a new invention; its called a condom

now wrap up and shut up


[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (3 children) | Copy

I saw statistics showing condoms have about 12% risk of failing over each year of use.

[–]Small_Cock_Simon22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

I use a new one every time. I couldn’t imagine a whole year.

[–]Shockblocked2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

You're supposed to use a different one each time

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Really? They are expensive!

[–]st-johnson3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're mad bro don't get the snip at your age

[–][deleted] 11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Freeze some sperm or get used to condoms.

No excuses on this one. Use them and get used to using them. It isn't strange at all and it is right by you and by any woman you get with.

[–]SavvyMillennial0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

freezing sperm sounds genius honestly. Given if it could last 20+ years. and given you dont lose it somehow.

[–]2johnnight11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Life is about reproduction. Your one job in life is to get women pregnant, twice. Maybe one woman, maybe two different women.

If you have no income and assets, the judge can't slap a high child support on you. So your second job for the next 18 years is to underperform economically or make cash on the side. As your hourly rates rise, you can work less and less hours. After those 18 years, you can start earning more.

This was a contrarian advice.

[–]3chazthundergut8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy

Personally, I'd never give up my birthright out of fear or mistrust.

A hundred generations of men passed your genes from father to son. And now you're gonna clip your own nuts because you just discovered that bitches cant be trusted?

To each his own I guess

[–]MisterRoid15 points16 points  (13 children) | Copy

For those suggesting condoms: The problem with condoms is that they ruin the sex to the point you can might as well save the energy and jack off instead.

[–]Furrealyo7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy

And if you have a larger than average dong, you gotta buy custom ones from overseas for $$.

Condoms suck, and are the main reason I’m a serial monogamist.

[–]cupshadow1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Serial monogamy still get girls pregnant.

[–]Furrealyo2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy

Sorry, forgot to mention the vasectomy. STDs are all that concern me these days so I get them tested before they get to ride bareback.

[–]cupshadow2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Do they usually get tested without complaint? And do you mention to them about your vasectomy? I'm genuinely curious, have been thinking about getting one for a long time.

[–]Furrealyo2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

They’ve never complained, but then again I prefer the 28-35 year old woman so they are more cool with it than a younger girl. I show them my results, and they get the hint. I’ve even offered to pay, but so far I haven’t had to. $200 to fuck condomless for a few years is waaaaaay worth it.

I keep them for 1-3 years and do it all over again when I get bored and my eye starts to wander. I get older but my women stay the same age lol.

[–]cupshadow2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's a really good strategy for older men, might keep this in the back of my mind.

[–]cupshadow2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

If the chick is hot you will cum regardless. There are also some condoms that are thinner and provide better sensitivity. And using condoms is pretty much like choosing your clothes, gotta see which one fits best. Of course skin to skin contact will always fell better but we must work with what we got for now.

[–]temerity181 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Used the thin ones. They broke on me 6% of the time. Especially during more vigorous fucking. The regular ones did not break, ever, in hundreds of trials.

[–]MisterRoid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

For me it's raw or nothing. I have not used condoms in the past 5 years and it won't happen anytime soon. But yeah, like the other guy I try to stick to one girl at a time.

[–]RevolutionaryPea70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It depends on the woman actually. I've fucked some women with condoms and it's been great. I haven't even considered going bareback. Then other women just feel shit and I can't even cum with a condom on. I'm not sure why. Nothing to do with how hot they are.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Yea I actually find condoms can be useful for me because they take a lot of the pleasure away therefore allowing me to last longer

[–]MisterRoid0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Do you just want the girl to think you are a good lover to feed your ego? When you get used to rawdogging you should be able to last longer anyways.

[–]fignootins1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

You think a vasectomy will protect you against STDs?

[–]dani0980 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

“What to do?” Get a Vasectomy

[–]YoungLilMadaraUchiha0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Use condoms or just keep it in your pants lmao. Or just communicate effectively and let it be known that you do not want a child before having sex and try to find girls with similar interests

[–]Musicgoon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get the spermicidal creme tablets. Jam one in your chick. And before you blast off, pull out and frost her ass cheeks or face...

[–]_Benny_Lava0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Then get a vasectomy!

[–]cupshadow0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I used to have this girlfriend who was really paranoid about pregnancy. So, after the sex, I would fill the condom with water to see if it didn't tear. Do the same: use a condom, empty it afterwards and throw it into the trash.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Get a vasectomy

[–]Coffeebob20 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I would recommend freezing your sworn at a sorry bank and different banks you know the old saying don’t have all of your eggs in one basket then get a vasectomy and with that you can always fuck without a condim and if you truly want to have kids you always have spent saved up

Edit: sperm sperm sperm

[–]batfish550 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Snip it. Best decision I ever made.

[–]FastYaw 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

At what age did you do it?

[–]batfish550 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

28ish. If you're under 25ish, you might have trouble getting the dr to snip you; a vasectomy is not intended as temporary birth control, and they want to make sure that you don't change your mind.

Google 'no scalpel vasectomy.' Less invasive, faster heal time.

[–]party_dragon0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don’t fuck women raw unless they’re baby momma material.

[–]TRP VanguardWhisper0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

So get a vasectomy.


[–]Lambdal70 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Darksh4dow880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Donate money to VasalGel. I hope it gets released asap.

[–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

GET THE VASECTOMY!! My pops had it twice after my younger brother was born. Sidenote: I fucked a bitch on New Years with a BC implant in her arm, I felt it, it was definitely there. I creamed that pountang once. What’s my chances of having some fuckhead baby

[–]mseand-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Shove some Plan B down her throat while you're at it

[–]mrmarkme1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Not very effective

[–]redpill_scientist92 1 points [recovered]  (1 child) | Copy

This is called having low testosterone. You’d rather cut ur balls off then man up and raise a kid.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Man up is blue pill meme

[–]primusinterpares1-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get a vasectomy

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