Recently, I picked up tinder. I had heard about it and thought why not. I crafted a simple enough profile, showed off my best pictures of myself and showed off qualities like I'm a musician etc etc. I liked every girl i a 25 mile radius. After a week I got 30 likes. Out of curiosity I had my profile reviewed on reddit. Just a visual assessment of myself I suppose. It was as eye opening as it was depressing. I realized that I'm just not nearly as attractive as I thought I was. Were I once thought I was maybe a 7, it turns out I'm a 5. So the first thing I learned in this experience was that I over estimated my looks (that being said I also workout regularly, though I'm not buff yet, I have a 9-5 job where I make 60k a year, I'm 24, I'm a musician, and dress fairly well though my wardrobe is in the works). So I've got stuff going on for me, but I'm simply not as visually attractive as I thought I was. To be clear though I've had little experience with women for various reasons, mostly because I have social anxiety I'm working on and that I used to be overweight so I had to work through that as well. I've never had a one night stand and only one girlfriend.

Anyways, I still had a hard time believe I was that bad. Like maybe I'm not the most attractive guy around (I've heard the word average to describe me a few times), I know I could use a more stylish haircut, but could I really only get 30 likes from fat homely looking girls? Living in the city I liked hundreds, so I was interested in knowing what the deal was. I thought about the tinder experiment and wanted to conduct my own. I found my most attractive friend on FB, grabbed a few photos, and crafted a fake profile. I liked every girl in a 20 mile radius and waited... Within a few hours I had 200 likes. Most of these girls weren't that attractive, below average was the average kind of girl I was getting likes for, but they were just coming. By the end of the first day I had 300 likes. 10 times more than regular me got. It was kind of discouraging, but I was interested to see what else I could learn and see how far I could take this.

And then I saw the true power of being an attractive male. I did manage to get a few likes from a few 6s and 7s. I messaged them with the nutella line and they ate that shit up. It wasn't even hard. I had tried that before on my regular profile and would get blocked as soon as I said it. So I then learned that attractive guys can get away with saying basically anything. I would make fun of them, being a total dick, and just make it clear I wanted them for sex. Sometimes they would say they hate me and I'm such as asshole and when I stopped giving them attention they would come back for more. They gave me their numbers and even snapchatted me dirty pictures. I wouldn't say much more to them than single words and they were glad to eat it up. I tried this with every girl on my list and it worked with very high accuracy. They didn't care what I said even if it was vulgar or overly sexual. They basically begged me to fuck them or to get drinks with them. It was easy. I felt so powerful. I could put in the most minimal of effort and I was in. I could call girls out on their stupid shit and make them my sexual objects and they loved it simply because I was attractive...

Everything I've learned here on TRP I knew was true when I had this encounter-

  • her- "you're such an asshole"
  • me- "you love it. admit it"
  • her- "fuck you."
  • 10 minutes later...
  • her- "You're right. You're such an asshole and this shouldn't be working" then proceeds to give me her number and snap me her tits.

The more women I messaged the better my text game got. It took almost no time for me to get dozens of women eating out of the palm of my hand and begging for more. I have literally never felt more powerful in my life. Yes, it was all a lie but it was addictive to me. After 2 days I had 300+ likes and dozens and dozens of girls wanted to bang this dude who they never met before and who was an asshole who said to them he wanted nothing more than sex.

In the end I had to delete the account because I needed to get off it. I had a brief glimpse into the life of a tall attractive male and it was a surreal experience. And this is only tinder. I can only imagine how even a guy who's an 8 with a little game do in the real world. I imagine it's a very fun socially sexual world. It just made me realize how much looks matter. Sure I can continue to hit the gym, find a haircut that looks good on me, and get some nice well fitting clothes, but I'll never have natural confidence that comes with having a good well defined jawline with great facial hair. Genetically some of us are disadvantaged and that's just how it is. People are predictable. We all want the most physically attractive mate.

Here are the take aways from my experience-

  • Being attractive is powerful.

  • Maintain frame. The entire time I was this persona of the attractive guy that oozed confidence and women loved it.

  • Women will never admit that they like the being treated "poorly" and love when a guy doesn't give them attention. They crave it.

  • Know what does and doesn't work for you- Not only did I delete my fake profile, but my regular one because it's not the environment where I stood a chance. Personally I'm not a fan of online dating at all. I'm working everyday to get passed my social phobias and approach more men and women for conversations and fun. It's hard to portray all your awesome qualities over tinder or something similar. Your chances will drastically increase in person. Not saying everyone should delete it if you're not attractive, but know that you won't get any attention from the girls you seek. Instead of wasting even another second on tinder I've opted to get into the open mic scene because I've always wanted to play for an audience and wouldn't have had the courage if it weren't for TRP.

  • Be Attractive

  • Don't be unattractive