Hey guys!

I just turned 29 years old (5’11, 191lbs, 13% BF, lifting 4X a week on average, and started to hit the sidebar on MRP back in January 2019) earlier this year and have been following RP content for the past few years now. I stumbled upon content on YouTube and a couple of the other TRP subs on Reddit at the time. It really wasn’t until I found the married red pill sub, when I actively went through the sidebar, even though I started out reading all three of Rollo’s Rational Male books when I originally discovered this content.

The main reason I went (hard) on the MRP sidebar earlier last year was for the fact I had been in a relationship with my girlfriend for close to two years at that point and I noticed a lot of things were changing (i.e. lots of arguments, lack of sex, drama, etc.). It was a big pill for me to swallow at the time taking all of the responsibility for the bull shit I put myself into, but I decided to lift (literally & figuratively) my way out of the shit I was in. I was so confused for the longest time on when I was plating my girl for a solid year how great everything was before we became official/exclusive. I literally became the meme for The Drunk Captain With A Pissed First Officer after around six/eight or so months into our relationship.

When I really put the foot down last January (2019), I noticed some massive improvements in all areas of my life. Before I started lifting on a consistent basis (minimum 4 X a week), I was a skinny fuck who was around 169/171 lbs with no muscle definition whatsoever. The only real “working out” I did was a lot of cardio previously to stay in shape. I got much, much stronger… At this point, I look way better, fit in clothes better, and the IOI’s I get from other women has really made me notice that my SMV has increased tenfold. I’m at the point now where I pretty much get sex whenever I want from my girlfriend. Lift heavy, fuckers — always.

The other reason I took this journey was to get rid of the neediness, constant attention that I craved from my girlfriend, and the ONEitis that I clearly had for her. We don’t live together, but I found myself wanting/needing to hangout with her 4, 5, and even some weeks, every fucking day together. It was an unattractive quality that I noticed her getting turned off by (slowly) overtime; considering, I was way more dependant for her, then she was for me. Now, we only hang out 2 to 3 days a week (average) because I have other things going on in my life (hobbies, lifting, volunteering, music, etc.). She complains that she doesn’t see me enough, but is now willing to pop over for a booty call whenever.

Anyway…

After sticking through the sidebar, lifting heavy, learning to game other women and be social, develop my frame, become an OI man, and really establish a life for myself that I haven’t had before, I feel like I’m at a bit of a crossroads at the moment… I’ve been together with my girlfriend for over 3 years now (relationship wise) and she recently turned 29 years old earlier this summer. I love and care about her a ton, but I’m noticing myself being drawn to breaking things off and spinning plates for a while now that I have unfucked myself from BP tendencies. I’m also noticing a lot of the things my girlfriend mentioned to me around not wanting to get married and living together has started to change from her original views a few years back.

Recently, my girlfriend mentioned that she was interested in us trying to live together later this year since she will be able to help out financially. The reason I said ‘no’ to us living together was for the fact that she had still been in school the last few years finishing up her specialized program and only getting financial help from her family and program work (she’s here from Sweden for schooling). I told her once she was finished her schooling and working that I would reconsider it then. Now that she is finishing up her schooling this summer and has a couple of jobs lined up for the fall (with the COVID thing, who knows how that will go..), she is wanting to move in with me come October/November. These conversations have also made me wonder if she is trying to optimize her hypergamy knowing that she is approaching the wall…

I’m just at a point in my life where I have a difficultly with settling down with a woman who is approaching the wall and/or at the wall. Have any of you had this problem before? On one hand, I want to stay with her since our relationship has improved a lot and I noticed that she is way more calmer then she was prior to me going down this rabbit hole. I credit the MRP sidebar for really helping me get my head out of my ass. That being said, the other side of the coin has my ego wanting new pussy and to spin multiple, multiple plates. I know I’m not at my prime SMV yet (soon here) and that I can definitely make myself even more better in all areas: personal, career, social, financial — all areas. I feel like I can have a bigger plate of women to choose from after really increasing my SMV.

I’ve searched through and read a lot of posts on both this sub and the main MRP sub, but I have had trouble finding posts around this kind of a situation. I’m curious here… Did any of you walk away from your LTR/spouse after improving your ‘individual’ situation? Did the increase of you improving your SMV make it easier to walk away and spin multiple plates? I have seen a few posts around here from guys wanting to avoid putting a ring on the finger of a post wall woman for a variety of reasons, one of them being the aspect that you can pick another (younger) woman if you so choose. This topic make me think of the graph that I came across a while back with Leo avoiding post wall women like the plague, which always gives me a good laugh.

One of the alarm bells that also goes off for me is knowing that my girlfriend has also entered the epiphany phase, which makes me wonder how quickly she will want me to put a ring on her; especially, if I move her in with me. I have told her in the past that I was not looking to get married and/or having kids anytime soon, even though my thoughts have shifted more towards not having kids and getting married at all. I do consume a steady diet of Rich Cooper’s youtube channel where he talks about marriage being a slaughter house. Even recently, he had a divorce lawyer come on his channel to talk about marriage, family, & common law situations, which was an eye opener for me. I’m also prepared that if she gives me the shit or get off the pot speech, that I will go over and open the door for her to leave.

I look forward to hearing some feedback on my situation; especially, from those MRPers who have been in my situation before. Thanks for reading through my post.