Hey TRP,

i am a selfemployed professional chef and my main client is a kindergarten.

It's pretty much fun as i get to spend ~20hrs a week with 16 females with no other male around and i use it as kind of a playground to try out and improve myself.

I have been changing my life pretty much during the past year. Stopped drinking, lost weight, recovered from depression and tried to man up. I am 37 years old, but look younger, managed to reproduce and learned a lot in the relationship with my child's mother about what i want and what not (which definitly not the kind of woman she is).

I normally wouldn't mess around at the place i am working, but i kind of "accidently" hooked up with a girl who's working there.

I think she could be LTR-material, which is what i am currently looking for. ONS are nice and i don't leave one out, but i don't care that much about them any more.

I managed to maintain a frame with her where i am the kind of experienced guy who's seen most of everything in life (which is actually true... ;)) and can get girls when he feels to, which is not that true since i had real friendzoning issues, when i was younger, but managed to change that.

She's half-jokingly said things like "I know i would have to share you." and stuff like that.

There's been going a lot of teasing and flirting on with her and she also shittested me a couple of times which (at least i think) passed by just pulling back or not giving her what she wants.

I think she is pretty aware of how to deal with men, which is kind of OK for me, since it's some competition and i like it.

We talked about dating (without an actual appointment), changed numbers and texted a couple of times.

I hesitated up to now because i've got a huge problem finally judging her from her behaviour and i want to investigate a little bit further. I cannot afford a to have a maniac working there bitching about me and making everything a problem since i make a decent amount of my money there. And last you know that you normally don't shit where you eat but it's a little bit too tempting...

I've got a real good relationship, we're not friends since i'd like to part things with one of the owners there and i know that he wouldn't be watching that for a long time. Though i talked about it to him and he is OK with it.

So maybe you could help me out a little bit. ;)

She's got a pretty nice face at least an eight to nine though she's a little bit chubby, maybe making her an overall seven to eight. Also she mentioned that she recently lost weight and continues to. She is by far the best looking one in the whole location. She is nearly as big as i am (1,85m).

As i mentioned she is aware of the game. She claims to be selfconcious but i am not shure about that since she mentioned that she was chubbier when she was younger and she is kind of an extroverted person.

She seems to have a healthy social life and i heard her talk good about her father and her brother so her family life also seems to be at least OK.

What makes me a little bit supsicous is the fact that she claims not to have had any sexual contact for over a year plus the fact that her last boyfriend locked her up in her flat and beat her after they broke up.

Though she is relativly open about sexual stuff, as she hinted me more than once where she's got some piercings hidden and she likes me being a little bit insinuating and ambigous.

Also it am relativly shure that she is into me since she's always smiling big time when seeing me, trying to get my attention, trying to interfere when i am chatting or flirting with the other girls around and is often trying to play the hard-to-get-type game.

So i would need a little advice on how i could judge better if she is just faking stuff to get attention and generate attraction and how to proceed from here.

I am aware that i start getting used to her and start liking her and this would be the time to go or stop and next her.

Thanks in advance. :)

tl;dr: Don't want to shit where i eat before i am relativly shure i wouldn't cause a shitstorm coming at me and need advice on judging possible LTR-material on her behaviour and how to determin if she's fake.