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I don't have interest in the majority of girls. Is it a problem?

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January 23, 2019
83 upvotes

Recently - after my breakup last year I think - I've noticed I'm not interested by the majority of girls. And I'm not talking about looks, but the conversation and what she can bring to the table.

Mostly of them are just.. mediocre.. Don't know exactly why, but I don't feel that will to escalate I had before and even kisses are not that good.

I'm wondering if it's a problem, maybe my subconscious doing this to prevent my feelings of being hurt, or I just came into a higher abundance level where girls aren't on the pedestal anymore and just a nice body isn't enough.

What do you think?


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Title I don't have interest in the majority of girls. Is it a problem?
Author in_progress_
Upvotes 83
Comments 73
Date 23 January 2019 05:43 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/175116
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/aiwit5/i_dont_have_interest_in_the_majority_of_girls_is/
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[–]TRP VanguardWhisper48 points49 points  (3 children) | Copy

I think you want a relationship.

Men who just want to hit it and quit it tend to give less fucks about personality.

[–]LeoVeternum6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Maybe... but if op has enough sex then it is right time to get picky about the experiences he gets, not enough time in a day to waste it on subpar relationships (be it plates, dates or subpar sex)

[–]IronboundAbyss4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

He didn't mention sex in his initial post... if you think about it, personality doesn't matter when you're plowing her from behind.

[–]in_progress_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, I want it. My last one was an amazing experience.

[–]juggernaut843 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy

maybe my subconscious doing this to prevent my feelings of being hurt

If it's not this, then you do you. There's no reason to waste attention on girls you're not really into.

[–]therandombiker154 points55 points  (4 children) | Copy

you just grew up. you know now that pussy is waaay overrated. and you're not willing to pay the price. you're looking for personality AND looks. only look is not enough anymore.

I suppose you're in your 30's, or maybe late 20's but more mature than your peers, right?

[–]Idris00714 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

I can relate with OPs situation and have thought along the lines of your comment too. I’ve put it down to maturity and realising true value of pussy and other things in life

[–]in_progress_[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

This makes sense about what I feel..

By the way I'm 21, but yes I feel 'older' than my peers.

[–]EumenesOfEfa2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are very mature for your age. Try to hang out with older guys. Maybe do a co-op at a local company and make some contacts there. I was (and still am) in your situation, and really that is the only thing that helps me.

[–]Camp_KillYourself32 points33 points  (7 children) | Copy

Do you have libido issues / low T?

You should still be interested in women but you have to understand you're talking with a woman and not Jordan B. Peterson or Carl Jung -- don't expect to get some crazy insightful conversation that's incredibly deep, sorry but you have to understand women are a lot more agreeable than men, something like the redpill is so far-fetched from anything they could conjure up. They are likely to go with the flow and accept the situation and whatever CNN tells them.

Look to your friends for those deep conversations.

[–]1rad_dynamic9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy

One of the hardest parts of the red pill for me. Been a ENTP, I love insightful debates about ideas, most girls can't even do that.

[–]User-31f64a4e9 points10 points  (2 children) | Copy

It's not just that they can't do that, it's that (depending on the topic) they will react emotionally to some imagined subtext of the discussion. This makes meaningful conversation with 99% of women into a mine field.

Of course, you can steer clear of religion, society, politics, culture, or any other area full of controversy.
That leaves, what, your hobbies? How many women share those interests?

[–]Camp_KillYourself0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Hobbies and sex

[–]User-31f64a4e0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Party 'till you're chafed, eh?

[–]Maybelowsmv1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Meh, I think that's an ENTP problem in general. As a female ENTP, I find that there's lots of men that are too boring to interact with. I get along best with INTP and INTJ guys, though I agree that girls are more likely to be less interested in debates/playing the devil's advocate

[–]qball430 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Have you read any Jung? I’ve heard quite a bit about him from lectures and other books but haven’t yet delved in myself.

[–]the_dude199513 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

I can relate to that. Since I've been working out 6 days a week, I have become so uninterested not only in girls but also in my social environment. I think have even grown more introverted.

[–]noPTSDformePlease4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Working out a lot exhausts the body and that can also lead to mental exhaustion. Especially of you have a white collar job.

Maybe try taking a week off for recovery to see if your desire to be social comes back.

[–]SalporinRP3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

This. Once I was 6-7 weeks into my cut last year and my life just turned into get up, lift, work 9-5, come home, cook, surf internet for an hour, sleep.

Would barely talk to people and work and people started thinking I was depressed when really I just was fucking too tired to have menial small talk.

[–]goblinboglin10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Mate remember that being redpilled doesn't mean having to fuck ton of new girls.

You can instead focus on your other aspects of life, transmuting sexual energy into new money making opportunities for example.

[–]Shittybillyall6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

I have the same issue since my last LTR ended. I don't even check out most girls at my gym. It's not that I'm not interested in women, I have plates I fuck and I'm always looking for newer and better. I just honestly see most women as average as fuck and can't be bothered giving them the satisfaction of seeing me check them out.

[–]TruthSeekaaaaa4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I envy you

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (5 children) | Copy

You can't fuck a personality

[–]blancstare6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

But you can get fucked by one

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's why we need to recognize red flags!

[–]Naebany3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

And you can't put your fist in her college degree.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I'm glad someone got that reference lol

[–]Naebany0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I'm glad that it was a reference not a coincidence ;)

[–]DadOnDabs5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

You went from a beggar to a chooser. Welcome to abundance.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Focus on your profession and your own destiny.

Bang women in the future if you like, or dont.

Very natural feelings. As a man you just get over the childish chase and have other interests.

[–]RedSkeller3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'd consider this normal. Quality over quantity kind of guy. I've always felt that way and it's never served me wrong. Stack plates and stack money until you find another good one. They come around but less frequently than the sex does.

[–]fender18783 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

The best poker players really only play a small number of hands.

I’m like you — if I’m dealt crappy cards, I just fold and wait for the next hand. So many people get dealt awful cards and stay in the game hoping to turn it into a winning hand — even when the odds are against them.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Nope not a problem. It's a fact. Women don't have to put much effort into a relationship. They have dicks slapping in the face as soon as they step out their front door.

If you want an exceptional LTR then it's a numbers game. There are those women that will put in the work but you have to search for them. Shit test them. Ask then to do things for you. Force them to put in the effort. See how they react. You can straight up ask them, other than looking fine what else do you bring to the table?

[–]Olram_Sacul1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think it sounds like a blessing to me

[–]geo_gan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s just you are waking up from the control of your primitive hormones, and realising only now the shit they are shovelling.

[–]aanarchist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Same for me I'm interested in the idea of women, but after talking for a bit with most women I pass on that shit real fast. She'd have to essentially pay me for my time.

[–]TheHumbleAfrican1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You are beginning to realize your value and are comparing it to the value of women you meet. Once you know yourself, and work on yourself and improve yourself, you will experience this. This is not a problem, because it will save you from wasting valuable time (a finite resource), with people who you do not derive value from. It will save you from countless meaningless texts, calls, coffee dates, happy hours; you could be doing something more productive with that time saved, and only spending it with people who you find value in.

[–]SuspiciousBed1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I think you should find girls that are more stimulating for you, whether that’s through their looks or just having more personality than your average club slut, perhaps both.

As you level up your SMV as a man you’ll need a higher tier of female to satisfy you

[–]in_progress_[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Nice.

Curiously I often find women at the gym, libraries and universities more attractive than the average chick.

[–]SuspiciousBed1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I, too tend to find more ‘intellectual’ girls more attractive. Or at least those that pose as intellectuals, I’ll take that at the very least

[–]McVaghunter3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's just the break up; soon you'll realize that there are no special girls worth having special conversations with and that the only thing a female can bring to the table that is actually worth a damn is her tight teenage body. Anything from the neck up is irrelevant.

[–]SuspiciousBed1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy

Yikes

[–]FactCheckMate-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

As a female that stumbled into this thread that was my feeling exactly. 3 upvotes for something that removed all trace of humanity from half the human species? It'd be sad/pathetic for its cynical bitterness if it wasn't so poisonous. Its gender equivalent is:

>"there are no special boys worth having special conversations with and that the only thing a male can bring to the table that is actually worth a damn is their tight teenage body (or I guess the stereotype would also include their paycheck). Anything from the neck up or outside their bank account balance is irrelevant".

Dehumanising garbage from a very sad and lonely human being. It must really be terrible to believe half the world thinks you're worthless except for what's between your legs...

[–]SuspiciousBed-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah some of the stuff here is good but sadly it gets washed out by the radical dehumanizing generalizations that are made. My vibes would be extremely heavy if this is how I felt about half of the population

[–]FactCheckMate-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's interesting though. You're right. It isn't all bad, there is some good stuff. But yea, some of these extreme black/white views are well...let's just say I don't think places that have, "all men are rapists" comments sitting merrily with 3 upvotes on a 73 comment popular thread reassuringly healthy. It means that many that may not comment explicitly the same as above, secretly think something similar - "all women are cumdumps"

I'm a human too. I think I will go hang out in other places where that humanity is more popularly accepted.

[–]mgtownigga0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I don't have an interest in the majority of girls when it comes to personality, but I def have an interest in whats between their legs if ya know what i mean

[–]someonesopinion69690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

oh well, more pussy holes for us

[–]SalporinRP0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I understand not being interested in stupid girls but still if you're 21 like you said in another comment you should basically be horny all the time.

Are you jerking off every day or some shit? Because that can kill your libido fast.

Try taking a break and see if these girls don't become more attractive lol

[–]in_progress_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Actually I neither fap regularly nor watch porn.

[–]AshyLarry27-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy

First of all this isn't normal, and my first two suspects for this are

- Low T levels (get that checked with a doc, are you lifting?).

- The other being too much PORN, especially hardcore stuff. I don't care what your opinions on "NoFap" are, I am no devout cult follower of it. That said, what I HAVE noticed is a fairly congruent correlation at this time with men who are struggling to get it up and find interest in women, and the advancements in technology going from porn magazines, to porn online, to how expedient it is to find any kind of porn, and now heading in the direction toward virtual reality and robots (...ugh)

[–]in_progress_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Don't know my T levels, but I lift, neither watch porn nor fap regularly.

[–]Freedom__Fighter-4 points-3 points  (0 children) | Copy

You probably gay bro, it cool



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