Note: I didn’t intend to make this as long as I did. I just kept typing my thoughts out. I also want to state that I’ve read the sidebar and the books. I have read The Rational Male at least 4 times now. In theory, it’s easy for me to say “do this” to people who ask advice. But now I’m in the position where I’m actively dealing with a problem, so I feel lost and confused and I want to make the proper plays.

Yesterday I posted a question about dread in my LTR. I followed the advice and took some mental notes. I’m really looking at putting these theories into practice and truly living my life properly through a red pill lense.

I’m aware that dread isn’t something I actively perform, but wasn’t sure how to phase it. Also aware that I’m probably just soft nexting properly.

To summarize, my LTR is very submissive etc., all and all pretty good which is why I decided to keep her around.

Recently I was having problems with compliance (for lack of a better word) when it came to sex, and decided that I would leave instead of pretty much dealing with it as if it were LMR, which is how I normally deal with it. So I left.

She followed me to the door and gave me a pretty passionate kiss to which I didn’t really respond to. I got in my car and left. She stood on her porch and watched me leave.

I went out for the night. She ended up driving to my house while I was out and stayed there for about an hour and a half, I guess waiting for me to come home.

I got home pretty late and fell asleep. I checked my phone before I fell asleep and at that point she had called me 5 times and left a good number of texts.

Throughout the night, she texted me quite a bit and I woke up to 2 more missed calls that she made in the early morning (like 2 am) and a call from a mutual friend as well. I assume she asked him to call me and they were talking about me.

The last text she sent me was this long text about how she’ll love and cherish me no matter what even if I berate her, etc etc. and how she’s worried about me and not sure why she’s bothering because I probably blocked her.

I replied “...I’m fine...” then got ready for work and left and now I’m sitting here processing it all and wondering what to do next. I’m not sure how to continue in terms of

Also...

I want to redefine the context of the relationship in a way where I can emphasize the importance of compliance (for lack of better word) and desire without stating such.

I am of the opinion that the transaction in a committed relationship should still be a proper exchange of pleasing me with sloppy blowjobs and enthusiastic sex, in exchange for my time and some beta comfort every now and then in addition to including her in my world and the access it provides.

She gives me these things, but I just want to make sure it’s a prominent exchange in the relationship.

Should I fuck her more than I do now? If she isn’t in the mood, should I do what I did yesterday and just leave?