How to cope with feeling of wasting your prime years?

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March 3, 2016
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Sorry about my english, Eastern Europe guy here.

Man, I wish I had access to the things I learned here when I was 15. I am 27 now. I've spent my teen years mostly on video games, figured out I have no idea how to get and keep a girlfriend and basically gave up. Having absent and beta dad didn't help either. Up until now I've had sex less than 10 times, get attached to girl every time and inevitably got hurt, so I avoided relationships and sex in general. The worst thing is I am not bad looking, so a lot of people just assumed I am gay (am not).

After finding about the red pill some time ago, things started to click, I've finally got answers to my questions, fixed my behaviour, stoped being clueless and for the first time in my life I am in the functional relationship. I don't care that much if we break up, the first thing I want to do is practice.

Now for the problem. The girl is 26 years old, hitting the wall, and this being the EE, she is a good RP girlfriend. When we talk about our lives and experiences, I feel so left behind, I feel like I fucked my life beyond reparation, and the sadness that ensue is starting to hinder my progress toward bettering myself. I keep misterious vibe and solid frame, she thinks I am cool alpha with lots of experience, but when I come home and draw a parallels things start to hurt.

  • She was outgoing all of here life and has huge social circle. I rarely left my room and currently have 1 or 2 friends.

  • When I look at her facebook albums, she has countless pictures from all around the Europe, parties, she has stories about summer loves when she was younger and super hot, where her eyes become dreamy, she has cool experiences and sweet memories. On the other hand I hardly left my country, my pictures on FB are 5 and 6 years old, there was nothing exciting in my life for the long, long time.

  • She had three two-years long realationships and multiple hookups. My longest "realtionship" was six month, long-distance, one-time-sex retardation. I've usually developed oneits for few of my awkward casual hookups.

  • She has a lot of sexual experience and is great in bed. I am currently struggling to get it up due to my PIED so I have to take the pill when we are having sex, and have a lot to learn regarding sexual positions and fucking good.

  • She is a great conversionalist, I am mostly quiet as fuck (constantly working on this).

And many more. So after talking about these things I've get the somehow worst feeling ever, mixed jelousy, love, nostalgia, fear, anxiety, sadness, I start sweating and breathing heavily, feeling that I wasted my youth on the most stupid things imaginable so I have very little cool stories, experiences and memories. People all around me lived through it all and are getting married, settling down after crazy, crazy years, and I am just waking up, like some middle age crisis guy who is trying to be a teenager again. Like I say, these things set me in a panic mode, I know the cure is to have as many crazy experiences now, but It is hard to calm down and is kinda fucking with my head.

I am working on myself constantly, but when this fucking feeling come I feel like shit for a couple of days. Anyone been in situation like this, care to share some wisdom with me?


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Title How to cope with feeling of wasting your prime years?
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Date 03 March 2016 04:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 36 points37 points  (10 children) | Copy

I feel like I fucked my life beyond reparation...

"The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second-best time is now."

I unplugged at age 38. I'm not saying that it's easy nor am I saying that I didn't waste decades of my life. What I'm saying is that there is only now and the future, not the past. You can learn from the past but you can't change it, what you can change is your present and your future. Speaking of which:

I am currently struggling to get it up due to my PIED...

Are you abstaining from porn and masturbation? If not I would highly suggest you do that.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (5 children) | Copy

Yes, I started abstaining few days ago, going to stick with it until I can fuck like a champ.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (4 children) | Copy

Two pieces of advice. First don't get discouraged if you fail, it happens. Second, calibrate yourself. Not everyone needs full abstention from both porn and masturbation. If you find yourself getting too horny and getting stupid, take care of it, but watch yourself and your behaviors.

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[–]allfunkedout2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Word. I still have to crank it out twice a week to not start hitting on fenceposts and mailboxes.

Thought I was the only one who did that. Makes me feel better.

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[–]Acaicus2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

^ NSFL, NSFL, NSFL ^

[–]MentORPHEUS3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

"The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second-best time is now."

Late 40s, came here to tell OP this.

[–]disgruntledearthling2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Unplugged at 56. Never too late.

[–]alpha_n3rd43 points44 points  (4 children) | Copy

You're only 27? Fuck right off. I'm about a decade older than you and I'm making gains and getting my dick wetter than it has been in a long time.

Learn from your mistakes, do not repeat them.

[–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

Trying to be like you then mate.

[–]alpha_n3rd20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

Did a mention I'm married to a bitchy land-whale baby momma? Don't be like me. Be better than me.

[–]A_Rex4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Have you come over to MRP yet? Sounds like just he place for you. Myself am 37 and getting my baby mama to ask for shit I used to get in college. Come check it out.

[–]PorkNails1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Learn with others, be yourself.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

There's nothing wrong with having a few friends. People grow at different rates. I know people your age still thinking about going to school. Can always turn it around and the best fucking time to do that is now.

I'd recommend reading The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi for you. You still have quite a bit of life left.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I am always in for more good RP books to read. Do you have some more recommendations on topics in hardening self and not caving in to these bulshit stuff?

[–]abdada18 points19 points  (20 children) | Copy

Unless you're 33-37, you haven't even gotten to your prime years.

[–]empatheticapathetic7 points8 points  (18 children) | Copy

I see this repeated by everyone on here but I can't comprehend how it's true. I don't know anyone who fits this idea. I've never seen it.

[–]alpha_n3rd7 points8 points  (12 children) | Copy

It's probably not true for fat fucks.

The age average of professional triathletes is 33.7 and the overall triathlete average age is 43.1. Young people don't have the discipline to train for it.

OP has years to train for his Ironman.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's probably not true for fat fucks.

So don't be a fat fuck.

/sorted.