RP family, you've been beyond helpful to me in the past year as I integrate RP into my life.

While things are going well with me, my family situation is rather rocky. My uncle (let's call him Don, who's my mother's older brother) has been married to my aunt (let's call her Betty) for 20+ years. Don is a true definition of an alpha at work, makes great money (e.g. seven figure net worth), and loves his 3 kids. Betty is a stay-at-home wife who is really the most extreme tiger mom and has never worked in her life.

To give you bullet points, here's a summary:

  • Betty is convinced that Don has a side chick (and possible kid); I can't confirm this as I don't know, but all signs point to it. She gets pissed at him for every little thing. She may very well be bipolar, as she's very nice for a while and can immediately change at the drop of a hat. She is known for blowing up in public at both her kids and her husband.
  • Don has been largely unhappy the past few years, but decided to stick it out for the kids' sake (the youngest kid is heading to high school, the two older kids have moved away to college and rarely come back home -- I've personally confirmed this when they visit me instead of their own mother).
  • Just 3 hours ago, I received a phone call from a relative telling me that Don/Betty's house is completely wrecked. Betty was up in fumes after Don told his daughter to put her phone away when the family is eating dinner. She throws everything in the kitchen at Don, including knives, dishes, etc. Note that the daughter saw the entire debacle and this isn't the first time something of this magnitude happened in their home.
  • Betty yells at Don to leave "her" house and that she wants half of everything. Most of Don's wealth is in the form of joint bank accounts, safety deposit boxes in the bank, and real estate. However, he's open to splitting the wealth (and let's be honest, he'll most likely have to).

What I've learned in TRP is that the answer should be relatively simple: divorce and move on. What I want to ask the fellow TRP folks is the following:

1.) I'm still new to TRP, but what is the best way to go about this from Don's standpoint?

2.) Is it possible for Don to pull out everything from the bank? At this point, no divorce papers have been filed yet, but Betty has said she wants a divorce. Don responded by telling her he's been unhappy and would sign the papers should they come.

3.) Don is a tried and true hustler; he can make money even if all he had was a phone. We're not worried about him, but we're worried about how much he can lose. After all, he is my uncle by blood and the most successful one in our family. It's a shame that he's an alpha at work, but he's reduced to a beta at home. This is not uncommon, btw. What steps do you all recommend as we try to help him move forward (my side of the family is not particularly fond of Betty)?

Note: I'm rewatching Mad Men, so please excuse the Don/Betty nicknames and the similarities in the story.

Much appreciated.