Bigass post, I wanted to get out some of my perspectives on what I see happening in the manosphere pertaining to watering down TRP theory for "relationships" and a lot of guys asking for some un-necessary "TRP relationships" subreddit to discuss presumably less hardcore, softer versions of RP theory.

The manosphere is infected with this ideology that being in a relationship requires you to "beta down" your game and basically mix in some beta bucks / provider behaviors in order to keep a high quality woman. This makes sense at first glance, but it simply is supoptimal in practice and the logic stems from people mischaracterizing "alpha" or "RP" in their minds. In a nutshell, LTRs already automatically have you giving some commitment to her and communicating your fidelity, meaning you already have slotted yourself partially into the beta role simply by being willing to enter monogamy with her. Comfort for her increases, sexual arousal decreases minorly, and following the advice of "mix a little beta in bro" is just going to compound that effect.

LTRs essentially take you out of the AF slot in her mind (she still perceives you as alpha, just not on the same level of "he's too good for me, I could never get him 100%, I'd have to share him at best" that you once had.) This is not bad, it just means you must act accordingly and understand what is happening within her mind. She is now confused about how to slot you - you're clearly no BB provider and you're not quite the AF that was originally just spinning her as a plate. What happens when a woman is confused about where exactly you fall on the spectrum from hard alpha to beta?

Shit-test galore. Women will constantly shit test you regardless, so I am not saying there is anything you can do to stop the shit testing. But when you're position in her mind is unclear (aka you mixed in beta game to your alpha game that had been working just fine), that's when you get the nasty negative shit tests, the shit tests that are obnoxious and not an extension of feminine flirting. Positive shit tests are actually cute and fun, they are opportunities to make her melt under the firmness of your masculinity - for example, when your GF asks you if you think she should get fake boobs.

But when a woman does it about everything and in a non-flirty way, as if she is needling you to see if it hurts you constantly, this is a symptom of you not communicating your SMV / masculinity clearly. This is a guaranteed result when you try to be a alpha / beta hybrid.

So why then does everyone suggest being an hybrid of the two for relationship game? Many sites recommend guys be around 80/20 or even 60/40. This stems from the false idea that alpha means inability to emotionally connect or lack of empathy or dark triad. (DT does not = alpha, alpha does not = DT.) Alpha males - aka the highest SMV males in any given system - may often have commitment issues and inabilities to make a woman feel loved and special, but this has nothing to do with their "alpha"ness (correlation is not causation). Truly confident, happy alpha males - the type you should aspire to be - are not emotionally crippled and can commit to a woman if she is worthy of that commitment. There is no need to mix in beta traits because this man creates a relationship bubble for him and his LTR based around his leadership, his high value, and his ability to give her full emotional ranges.

The latter is key - we all know that women must be led through complex, complete emotional ranges to stay at peak levels of attraction and arousal. So what type of man is most capable of leading a woman through the full roller-coaster? A half-alpha? A 3/4 alpha? Fuck no, that idea is based on the flawed perception of alphas as "emotionally one-dimensional" aka crippled. A man aspiring towards the masculine ideal (his full potential, the most alpha he can be) is a man who can give women these peak experiences that they crave. He's a man who can make her feel loved, make her feel dread, make her feel comfort, make her feel security in his arms, make her feel loneliness when he's gone, and ultimately, make her feel that she is being LED towards becoming the ultimate feminine woman.

Here's why beta traits being strategically incorporated will just shoot you in the foot. Most of you are, at best, hybrids to begin with, if not full out betas trying to be alpha. No shame in that, the vast majority of any males in any social system are by definition betas. So you are already, at best, somewhere between 50% alpha, 50% beta in how you come across to your woman (hence the shit tests everyone complains about). Experienced or naturally RP guys are probably around 75/25, simply because you are emulating learned, practiced behavior that has not been internalized over the same number of years that it is in a hardline alpha who had been forced to swallow red pills from childhood. You're no Tyson, you're not a wealthy entrepreneur who's ripped with a ferarri and game to back it up - you're not the hardline RP alpha god - get real. This means that you likely should be working FAR harder to approach a alpha ideal than incorporating beta traits.

Especially when you factor in what I said earlier about entering a LTR automatically lowering your alpha status in her eyes slightly (part of any alphas appeal is his unattainability). When you factor in that + the fact you probably were not alpha to begin with but rather a HYBRID of the two... the optimal LTR game for you is to bust your ass trying twice as hard as a single guy to reach the asymptotic ideal of "alpha".

You should be chasing your potential, you should be trying to become a 10, you should be incorporating more and more alpha into your composition. To make a LTR (or especially a marriage!) work, you are going to need to be incorporating MORE of the RP into your life, kicking more ass in your career, and hitting the gym even harder. To maintain alpha status in the eyes of a woman that you have offered your commitment to, especially if this woman is a 8 or 9 herself, you will have to consistently prove your superiority.

Women do not love their equals, they love the men they can worship. Check out this Ayn Rand quote:

"For a woman qua woman, the essence of femininity is hero-worship—the desire to look up to man. “To look up” does not mean dependence, obedience or anything implying inferiority. It means an intense kind of admiration; and admiration is an emotion that can be experienced only by a person of strong character and independent value-judgments. A “clinging vine” type of woman is not an admirer, but an exploiter of men. Hero-worship is a demanding virtue: a woman has to be worthy of it and of the hero she worships."

AKA, she wants to worship not necessarily you, but the masculinity - the idyllic perfection of a man - that you at your best represent. If you want the great woman, not the 6, but the 9, you better at least be trying to be a 10. Be extreme - don't mix in a little provider game, mix in a little dread game. She wants someone to worship 1000x more than she wants someone to provide for her. She has female friends and some bitch-boy who's never going to get within 10 yards of her pussy to provide her validation and make her feel superior. What she wants from you is very simple; she wants to see masculine perfection of a kind that she probably thought has gone extinct from this world. By being as alpha as possible, you put pressure on her to live up to it and be worthy of such a man. As a man, you will lead her and help her use this pressure to be the best person she can be, which is the only way you will ever, EVER get yourself anything close to a unicorn.

But Drrrrr, won't I lose her if I don't buy her things? Won't I lose her if I don't validate her and make her feel like the center of my world? If I'm too alpha, I'll lose her!

Simple. An alpha does things selfishly - he buys her a gift because it makes her look attractive to him to see her in that dress. He wants to go hiking with her because it will be a badass experience, so on her bday, he takes her. Stop thinking of "alpha" as "lone wolf who cannot emotionally connect with others". If you are great, she will feel validated enough merely by the fact that you chose her; if you have to do more to validate her, it means that you are not great enough that your commitment alone means everything. "If I'm too alpha, I'll lose her!?" NO dude, no. That question alone tells me there is not any concern that you will be "too alpha" in the next 10 years to lose a quality woman because of it. Yes, you will occasionally lose low-tier, insecure / immature women on your path to becoming the highest value man you can be - but you were SUPPOSED to lose those women so that at the end of the day, you could do a lot better. Maybe mixing in beta traits will help you keep low tier women as LTRs, but surely that is not why you got into TRP.

So in conclusion, if you're betaing down your game when you find yourself in a relationship with a great woman, you are crippling not only yourself, but her and her ability to blossom into an even more feminine, attractive RPW. Think about the most alpha version of yourself you can be, the godlike masculinity that you can never truly reach, but you can always aspire and toil to channel. When you enter a relationship, you need that as your ideal more than ever.