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LTR told me she wants less sex

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Title LTR told me she wants less sex
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Upvotes 62
Comments 20
Date 12 July 2016 04:40 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/184704
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/4shyli/ltr_told_me_she_wants_less_sex/
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[–]Endorsed ContributorAFPJ131 points132 points  (5 children) | Copy

She says she finds me attractive but she doesn't show her desire like she used to.

  • Strikethrough 1: Ignore what they say.
  • Bold 2 - Always focus on what they do.
  • Strikethrough 3: The past is irrelevant.

She doesn't "show" desire because she no longer has any desire for you - the "why", "how", past, future or "what ifs" don't matter. The only thing that matters is what is happening right now: her not wanting / having sex with you.

and so would you just suggest following normal Red Pill rules?

Reply with "We should take a break": It'll be properly translated as "Cool, decide if you want to start fucking or have me find someone who will". Play it by ear with your mind set on the exit. Hard next forever if she still "wants to talk"

[–][deleted] 44 points45 points  (2 children) | Copy

Reply with "We should take a break": It'll be properly translated as "Cool, decide if you want to start fucking or have me find someone who will". Play it by ear with your mind set on the exit. Hard next forever if she still "wants to talk"

Yeah definitely sounds like some dread is necessary. This an epic shit test. The only way she'll find him desirable again is if she knows he won't put up with her shit and maintain his own personal priority.

If he grovels, she'll be back on the carousel (if she isn't already) so fast his head will be spinning.

I would even go as far as to say she might have already and is planning her guilt-free dishonest escape.

[–]Endorsed ContributorAFPJ30 points31 points  (1 child) | Copy

I feel like too many guys reading this might think of dread as a mechanism to retain your current partner, which is a bad mindset to be in. It's you, on your way out, giving them a courtesy chance to change your mind. Shit tests are one thing, it's like hey do you have a backbone, but this is on a whole different level - she has zero respect for him.

Too many guys come here and post a dead relationship that either should've been over way before it got to the point where they're posting or there was never anything to begin with & follow up with "wat 2 do bout diz shit test guize".

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

It can be, but yeah you don't deploy dread unless you are absolutely ready to move on.

Empty threats only make things worse.

A Iover telling you that you are sexually incompatible is a pretty blatant signal the relationship is doomed.

What other recourse do you have at that point but to preserve your dignity and say "well sorry you feel that way, come get your things."?

Not a whole lot else you can do, really.

[–]RPill_Clinton 6 points6 points [recovered] | Copy

The sad part about this is most people who post questions like this won't take your advice, which is exactly right. If he leaves and she doesn't want him then have the discipline and self respect not to care. If he leaves and she wants to fuck him like a bunny, cool. Either way you win.

[–]yumyumgivemesome1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Most guys in an LTR are in that LTR because they're genuinely afraid they can't get another decent girl to fuck them ever again. That attitude tends to make it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[–]50pluspiller59 points60 points  (1 child) | Copy

Time to sail on captain.

Hit the gym harder, read the sidebar and internalize it. Keep improving your life.

[–]jb_trp7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Exactly. You can't negotiate attraction. All you can do is focus on yourself first and be the kind of man you want to be--and in being that man, you will be more attractive to women. Hitting the gym harder is a start. The article is a bit of a red flag, but (depending on the girl) might not be time to nuke the relationship.

If he's really focusing on himself and being the man he wants to be, that should help. He could try subtly dropping some soft dread game. Getting in better shape. Staying out at night. Buying new underwear. Subtly mentioning a new girl at work.

[–]ECoast_Man47 points48 points  (4 children) | Copy

Her sending you that link is a big red flag.

I'm just going to be honest here - any time sex has declined when I'm in a good relationship (and even bad ones) and I was the one not initiating, the women demanded to know why the sex had declined, as women innately know that if you aren't fucking them, there is high risk you are fucking someone else.

I'm not saying this is necessarily the case with your broad, but in my experience women do not tolerate a decline in sex (until they're readying a branch swing).

[–]helpmebemoreofadikk6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

The OP has been initiating sex, his gf is the one denying it. I agree mostly everything else though. If a girl loses attraction to you over whatever, she's gonna stop having sex. Doesn't mean she definitely has a branch to swing to right then...but it's coming.

[–]ECoast_Man5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

And that's my point.

If this is occurring, it means there is tumultuous waves in paradise. Women who are into their men would never do this.

[–]Sepean6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

You're alpha, OP is not. That makes it way different.

[–]Gawernator1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Super accurate. If sex goes down at all and it's due to the man wanting less, women go nuts.

[–]SexistFlyingPig31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

You want less sex?

I want less relationship.

[–]sirZofSwagger4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Agreed, this was my first thought. Play the cards you have available. If she wants to act like a gate keeper, remind her she's not the only one holding down a gate.

[–]The-Ban-Hammer26 points27 points  (4 children) | Copy

Your relationship is over unless you want to be the guy who jumps through hoops just for lackluster sex once or twice a month, all while she is considering or already sucking the cock of the guy she really wants.

[–]ThisTension11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

If she's not looking for a different dick then this post is the other truth.

Sounds like she used sex early on to lure you in. Now she is trying to show you who she really is.

I agree with the article that sex doesn't have to be perfectly aligned but it can't be such a huge gap in desire where one person wants sex 15 times a month and the other wants it 2 or 3.

Either way this isn't going to end well.

Move on instead of delaying the inevitable.. Sex will be the downfall of this relationship.

[–]Sepean1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

Or he could just alpha up. The same thing will happen with the next girl if he stays beta anyway, so leaving isn't even really a fix.

[–]The-Ban-Hammer8 points9 points  (1 child) | Copy

Alpha-up. Sounds simple, like grabbing a mushroom in a new Mario game. Suffice it to say, she views this guy as her bitch now. Probably no coming back from it.

[–]brooklynisburnin15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

sexual incompatibility...

That rationalization though, she wants...most likely already has, another dick in line. Dump.

You want sex, she doesn't, we all know how that ends, save yourself some time and frustration and get it done.



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