I've been hanging with a natural RP buddy of mine lately watching how he handles himself with women. To be blunt, he's a gentleman in his day-game. He acts like I did before I swallowed the Red Pill. TRP talks about being more stoic, not giving away your attention unless she's fucking you, women love asshole/douchebags, and I've really been cranking that up a notch. My first month into TRP I had my gentleman attitude that was a go-getter to making approaches and that's when I saw the most action from women.

To clarify gentleman, I don't mean holding doors open and stuff, I mean I acted myself, treated them with common decency, and found ways to have myself a good time too.

After absorbing and reading the material, I've struggled to pull in one. I feel like the douche-nozzle peter parker from the Spider Man movie that was cringe worthy to watch.

If I were to write a TRP manual for me, I'd write the following:

do what you normally do, put in effort to make approaches, and never get emotionally attached

The end.

Now TRP has helped me get my head out of my ass over my oneitis, I've lost weight, shifted my focus back to my dreams-n-shit^TM, opened my eyes to social dynamics, but my actual game seems to have degraded. My RP buddy calls me a dick and not the lovable kind. It's good I kept tabs on players/RP naturals in my life and buddied up to them because without them as a reference, I'd get tunnel vision hard and not see that I was trying too hard and not in the right ways.

And maybe it's because I was at such a self-loathing and depressed state about how my last LTR ended that I didn't see that I did have decent game and so I've overcompensated. Just because I had game value, social manners, and what-not didn't mean jack shit because I was never going out and approaching women. I let them come to me.

Has anyone else experienced this realization? I'm not a special snowflake so I'm sure my behavioral patterns are repeating themselves so is this common for transitioning members to have this try-hard period?