Long story short no bragging, I am a recovering alcoholic and sex addict.

I got into alcohol and sex for a good solid 6 months. One night stands, chasing girls, going out regularly it was a high buzz.

In July I tried to slow it down but kept a fuck buddy to keep my sex addiction going.

In Late August I met somebody a very nice homely girl. We met up briefly after exchanging numbers online etc.

I went on vacation and we spoke briefly but not alot, I went to relax. I decided to not drink or not fuck about and just try clear my head.

Since my return I've slowed down, I focus on my training, my work and so on. I also wanted to build a relationship with this high quality girl.

In the last 3 weeks we have been out 3 times. We talk alot, but she has cancelled a few times as she's very flakey.

Sunday (3 days a go) I spoke to her and essentially got her over, we performed oral sex on eachother, and went for dinner. We didnt have sex. She told me how she didnt want me to be just a rebound or a fling. I agreed and I really wanted to try build a solid chilled RP relationship with this girl.

I am 26 she is 27.

However since sunday shes not been in contact. I messaged about something she replied which she always does. But she has not really instigated conversation which is a bit annoying as we should be well past that stage, theres no real plan (I suffer from OCD) I like to plan out another date ideally to fuck her etc.

Yet she is almost encouraging me to blank her, tease her, and essentially next her and I dont want that as she told me she wants to become my gf very soon.

She has only been with 3 guys, comes from a great family, same ethnicity is very attracted to me, yet her flakey all over the place ways despite her swallowing my load on sunday make me wonder if shes really worth any more the hassle?

Or is this what you have to do for the girls who are decent for LTRs? I lack experience in LTRs so I wouldnt know.