This is kind of long, I know.. inb4 tldr. I'm just looking for some advice

I've never had a GF, and was a virgin before I met this girl on Tinder. I am 23 years old she is 20. We met, I am somewhat awkward and stuff, but she told me she found me cute and we ended up having sex on the second date. I told her I was a virgin before hand and she seemed very intrigued by it, didn't believe me because i'm a decent/good looking guy and tried to catch me in my lie. Anyway we've been dating for a while and i've done a lot of wussy stuff.. like asked her to be my girlfriend, she knows i'm inexperienced, etc.. came in under like 2 minutes the first time we had sex... didnt' know what I was doing, it was kind of pathetic actually.

Anyway, we still hang out..but this girl confuses the living shit out of me. She'll get mad over the SMALLEST things.. for example, the date before we had sex for the first time she would try to touch my radio in my car (I drive a 2007 honda civic), and I would push her arms away saying she can't touch my radio.. and it was really flirty at first.. but after a couple weeks she just says, "stop being rude" and gets all serious and turns her face into a bitch face. It seems like she wants to control me so that she wears the pants in the relationship and has all the power by acting like a brat/bish when I say/do something she doesnt like.. or even when I simply disagree with her. We've had sex 4 times in the 1.5 months we've been seeing each other, but that was when she had an apartment. She works 2 jobs, moved about 50 minutes away to her parent's place because she doesnt have money to keep an apartment for herself (since her roommate moved out). I've been over there several times..she's really hot and cold with her affection. Sometimes she'll cuddle close to me and i'll touch her and shit and one time I even gave her a butt massage (srs), which led to her getting really wet and me sticking my fingers in her and eventually her saying, "i want you" and we had sex.. but other times she wont even be within an arm's length and I can't initiate anything and we don't have any sex. It's making me think she's cheating on me, or doesnt' find me sexually appealing... srs.

As far as money and whether or not she's using me for $$$... I've asked her to drive her car to places but she refuses, and so we take my car always.. she pays maybe every other thing we do... although I asked to go dutch one time at a breakfast place after spending the night at her apartment and not having sex, and she got PISSED. Like straight up pissed wouldn't talk to me... she ended up paying the whole thing out of anger. I paid the next meal, but she does pay.

Now she lives 50 minutes away from wheere she previously lived, but we still hang out when she drives back for her work. I haven't had sex with her in 2 weeks, despite hanging out with her almost every night. She gets mad over the stupidest shit.. today we were driving to my college town and i was on a pass two way road and there was a semi in front of me.. I was like i'm passing this guy and she goes no you're not don't do it. And I do it and there are cars oncoming in the distance, but we had enough room. I eventually make it and she just stops talking to me like super mad that I disobeyed her order.. it's like she's trying to wear the pants I swear and trying to make the the beta provider, even though she works and I don't and I get my money from my parents yet she still pays some meals.

She's told me I have like no muscle when we were cuddling.. she often feels my biceps when we cuddle at the movies, she's said my car is a vagina car.. and has mentioned that I should get a truck on numerous occasions because guys who drive trucks are hot. She even told me about a documentary she watched about how symmetry is what makes people attractive and it's interesting how people with similar levels of symmetry end up with other people with the same level of symmetry. And then she goes on about how trucks and shit make people more sexually appealing, etc.. and how certain people find boyish looks attractive and others find manly looks attractive. and i'm like which one do you find more attractive and she goes manly.. and that's funny because I actually have a very boyish look (kind of babyfaced unless I grow out a beard somewhat, and my frame is somewhat small). So I'm like visibly like wha tthe fuk and she asks me what's wrong and I eventually just snap because i'm like god damnit this girl doesnt' find me attractive, has never found me attractive an dis just wtih me because of my background (she comes from a poor household, I come from a upper middle class household where everything has been handed to me.. my car.. etc).. and i'm like i'm gonna be honest I don't think you find me attractive at all.. You enjoy hanging out with me but you don't find me attractive. And she goes oh my god.. and i'm like what why do you always put this brat face on when I say something. it' slike nothing I say is good, and she goes I wouldn't be with you if I didn't find you attractive.

Thing is her words do not match her actions. I mean yeah, she spends time with me instead of doing other shit.. and i'm sure she's fucking annoyed to all hell that i'm asking her if she thinks i'm attractive.. but her hot and coldness with her affection is annoying beyond fuckign belief. sometimes she doesn't mind me doing whatever to her, and others she doesnt even want me to touch her. It's so goddamn annoying, and I told her that...

I just don't understand that if she truly found me attractive.. why wouldn't she want to fuck me.. and what the hell am i supposed to do now that theres no apartment or anywhere logistically for sex.. knowing this girl she wont ever do car sex, and I have no idea how to initiate that shit.. and I'm even scared to try because of how hot and cold she is with her affection. I just don't get this girl at all. I feel like she might be fucking some other dude. She's also told me stories about her friend's mom who married a doctor, got divorced and took all his money and she goes, "she did it the right way"... I'm thinking as a joke, but it's still fucked up to hear her say something like that... definitely not marrying this girl.

I feel like we should be in the lovey dovey stage where we can't keep our hands off of each other each time we hang out.. lots of sex involved, etc.. yet we're fighting like we're married instead, and most of the time it's over stupid shit. Another example, she was saying how we had plans to go shopping on saturday for her sister's wedding.. Well the fucking Oregon duck game is saturday and I want to watch that shit. And she flips the fuck out because we had plans.. like she just flips and gets so mad and starts giving me the "silent treatment." Like what the hell.. we've been together a month and a half... we should be fucking and disregarding everything else until we know each other better. I don't understand this girl. Please misc, help me understand.

CLIFFS:

  1. OP is a virgin, never had gf, 23 years old.. girl is 20
  2. OP met girl on tinder.. has acted like a wuss, thinks girl has made him beta provider.
  3. OP didn't know if girl was using him for $$$ for the longest time until he tested the girl.. girl passed test and paid for meals.. although got super pissed when asked to go dutch one time
  4. Girl gets so mad over stupid shit... the smallest things... Op has only been with girl for 1.5 months, and thinks they should be in lovey dovey stage where they cant keep hands off of each other.. lots of sex.. etc. Feels like Op is married to girl and they fight every day
  5. Girl moved 50 minutes away to parents place because of lack of $$ to live on own. works 2 jobs.. OP sees girl almost every day, still, when she drives to work.
  6. Girl has mentioned Op has like no muscle, and has called op's car a vagina (2007 civic).
  7. OP doesn't understand why girl acts like a brat.. has called her out on it.. but she gets super mad when she loses control of any situation.. gives silent treatment, etc. OP isn't getting any from girl, but has had sex with her 4 times in the last 1.5 months (and 4 times total).
  8. OP is wondering if girl is interested in him, but just doesn't find him sexually appealing. OP doesn't get what's going on.

I'm sorry this is really fuckign long, but if I could get some real advice.. I realize half the posts on here will probably be trolley, but maybe there will be someone who understands what this girl is doing, becuase I sure as hell don't get it... Are all relationships this complicated? This is my first one, so i'm confused and frustrated beyond belief with this girl.