Recently I was called out by a family member because I didn't make my almost three-year-old son sit still and be quiet when a couple of guys from my church came over to visit us, (see how I reacted based upon my description of my inability to maintain frame in my previous post on /r/asktrp).

My inclination was to let him play as long as he was relatively quiet. My family member (not my wife) told me after, like I said, that I should have had him sit down and be quiet.

I have a vague sense of dissatisfaction with teaching him to just sit and be quiet when he doesn't even understand what the grownups are talking about. But I have to admit that her justification that it was important to do that with children to help them learn self control etc at a young age seemed like a valid point.

Anyone care to weigh in on this? Thanks.