Note: I wrote to clarify my thoughts, I know it is well covered already. I am posting it as it may help clarify some concepts to others. (Spoiler: Its just sex and commitment as supply and demand, governed by a contract called marriage.)

Ever since I began RP, I had a gnawing feeling that I was missing something, something that did not make sense. Its best described as a question: “why is this all so fucking easy for her, and so much work / change / effort for me”. I’m a pretty decent guy, look pretty sharp etc. Although we like to blame the beta backslide, ultimately we are working against the glitch in the system

The glitch : MARRIAGE : a one sided contract

This is clearly not new news, so sorry to disappoint those looking for a new landmark discovery.

As we know, men trade commitment for sex, woman trade sex for commitment. When you get married, and say your vows, you legally commit to your woman within our society structure. What do you really commit? – That you wont sleep with anyone else and you’ll be there forever. So does she. But no one committed to ongoing sex.

In contrast to your fixed, enforceable commitment, It is only ASSUMED / IMPLIED that sex is permanently provisioned back from her to you. (For argument sakes, lets say that the ASSUMED / IMPLIED sex provision is based on the quality and quantity that you received from her in the most recent year before marriage)

So not only is the contract one sided, but the ASSUMED / IMPLIED parts of the contract change over time. Sex dies off. Its fucking TEXTBOOK if you haven't noticed. All of the DB folk prove this without doubt. Over time, she got out of the contract, you didn’t. The contract now is that you can't leave you retard, at least not without cost or pain

So why its harder for a Man : The one sided contract gives her ultimate control

She can increase and decrease the sex as is required to keep you happy and get you to do things. You have the choices of either being so awesome she just wants to drip on your feet every afternoon (Red pill), or be the dancing monkey good husband and hope for the best (ie Bluepill). Neither is stack in your favour in terms of easy to achieve the outcome you want.

It’s a shit deal.

If we look the commitment from you, what does she get? Well you do the jobs, earn the money and you're there every night to protect the family from the bogeyman and keep her feet warm in bed.

It’s a good deal.

If you don’t believe me, think about this. As we age, her SMV drops, ours steadily rises for a while. You all prove to me that age doesn’t affect provision of sex. Your ink on her contract made it that way, forever.

Summary

Almost all of you are here because you feel ‘fucked over’ by the loss of sex provision through the marriage. All of us will tell you its your own fault you went blue pill, and it is. But it only is because you signed a one sided contract makes you the one who has to WORK so she does what you thought was in the contract.

Imagine a world where a girl signs on for sex 3x per week, but no real commitment required from you. (oh yeah, thats how it is before marriage).