Some wives project rejection. You'll see it when she starts having a headache as soon as you touch her shoulder, or go in for a kiss. You may not even have been initiating, but it's instantly there. this is normal, if she's not attracted to you. This isn't the same thing as you being attractive, keep in mind. A reader was asking about what one should do.

Women usually take her mans lead. Your emotions validate her emotions, your lack of actions validate her lack of actions. Your fatt ass encourages her fat ass.

So do you want to turn down sex? I've held the idea that it sets a bad precedent. If I get to turn it down for whatever reason, in her lizard brain, she gets the idea that all she needs is justification. Most women don't even need you to set the lead, they just instinctively throw cock blocking goblins on an early curfiew and her pillow forts of doom to stave of the advances of the big throbbing dragon.

Sorry Mario, your princess is in another castle brah.

So if you're one of the middle of the road deadbedrooms, who is offered a swig of duty starfish once a month, you're getting paid the minimum you are willing to accept, so stop. It's not hard to tell when she's just laying there, so get up, mid thrust. Not angry, not irritated, just ... bored.

"Yeah, this isn't working for me"

Go put on some clothes and leave the house. I know you didn't make your move at 1030PM, right?

Beyond that, if you're not in the mood and she wants the D, just do your thing. Go down on her if you're a little sensitive from the night before.