So I've been divorced for a year plus. Playing the field and enjoying it. Of course every now and then it still hurts and regrets hit me. Especially when I look at my kids and the life they have, switching back and forth between homes. Other times I am thankful it ended, and look at how much I have changed to be a better man since she left. Anyway that's not the point of this post. See my prior if interested and also old /u/RPcoyote postings (that's me- lost password).
Ok so the point of this post is to highlight how since I am dating left and right and have the relationships I want to have with women, I journal almost all my interactions with them . From a simple approach in the beginning, to now the more high level summaries since approaches are too many.
So one thing that I found useful and may apply to married folks in helping keep a clear head is to journal what's going on in relationship with a woman in 3 distinct categories:
What she does What she says Personal Impressions.
For example . For one chick right now I have :
What she does -sucks and swallows like a champ -has me over makes nice dinner -has a plan for logistics when she wants to see me and takes initiative -sends me texts about her sex fantasies -tends to drink, she likes hard liquor
What she says -shit test galore (detail just for kicks) -complains we're just friends with benefits
Overall Impressions -careful don't see her more than once per week -ask her for help when needed, she's smart and capable -plan to meet at my place not hers -drink less than her
Of course for a married guy the above is going to be different. And always with same woman. The point is: keeping rational and clear headed track of what's going on is a good way (I found) to keep frame in check.
Good luck.
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