For most of my marriage, I was the drunk captain of the ship. I found TRP, MRP, started lifting built my frame, but the hardest part FOR ME was understanding shit tests and how to handle them.

Now, keep in mind but I'm still learning, and with practice, I have been hitting these lobs out of the park.

When you really start nailing these shit tests, incredible things start happening: In my case, I find my wife initiates a lot more these days, especially around ovulation.

Her "No's" and excuses have nearly stopped entirely. And when she said no to me last week (through her body language, I don't verbally ask her haha), I responded by saying "Alright babe, but you're gonna have a boner poking you all night". Five minutes later, she's rubbing my hands under the pillow and dragging her feet up and down my leg, her typical signal.

The next day her mother was over at our place to meet her friend. Her friend cuts hair, and meeting at our place was a halfway point for them.

So, I'm watching football, and all 3 of these women start chatting, haircutter tells this story of her beta husband, gambling away settlement money, drinking and smoking all day (this is a man in his 50s btw), and finally kicking him out.

The conversation progresses and eventually they are discussing our pets. Wife talks about how it's a pain to deal with the animals.

Haircutter: "Why?"

Wife: "...because I am not the one in charge around here"

Excuse me? Did I hear that correctly?

At this point, some sick part of me, some disgusting, lingering beta part of me almost spews out some bullshit. I was almost about to say "Oh we're both in charge around here. The bird just doesn't like you and the dog is hyper"

But I chose to use this situation to further solidify my frame. I was already in the kitchen getting some cheese so I approached my wife with slight grin, smacked her ass gently and said, "That's right baby."

They all chuckled, her mom more so in disbelief that I said this (I fully believe her mom has no respect for men) but the haircutter friend says "I wish I could have said that about _____" (I can't remember what dudes name was...)

Remember to build and always maintain your frame. You never know when or if that blue pill nonsense is going to just spew out of your own mouth. I almost blew it right there and instead I paused, and seized the opportunity to solidify my position as the alpha in the family.

TL; DR : After almost of year of building frame, passing shit tests, and righting my ship, my wife openly admits to her mom and her mom's friend that I am in charge in this household, and then I capitalized on the opportunity.

Edit: I fucked up my title... can't change it...