Opening op the marriage, I think the point was missed

bangorlol · 2016-09-07T17:39:13+00:00

Eh, dude had a year to get over his wife emotionally and in the end got freedom. He still wins.

UEMcGill · 2016-09-07T13:58:50+00:00

And since I'm on the roll of talking about drama bullshit...

Here Some sociopath on TBP rallying TBP when rollo calls her out. Enjoy

I've been on TRM for two years now, and Rollo has only ever banned two women - every one else is welcome there. Emily was banned because she came in there acting all religious and superior, but then we found out that at other places she talks about how much she loves cocaine and threesomes. She sends nearly naked pictures to others on the internet while forcing her bf to be celibate. She's a complete psycho and a liar. The other person that was banned was a woman who threatened to kill all red pillers.

Also how was that 'rant' misogynistic?

UEMcGill · 2016-09-07T14:03:22+00:00

Your wife going out and getting strange pussy for you to bang is opening up the marriage, this was not. Make no mistake, this was a classic case of "Branch Swinging." Neither of them knew what to call it but that's what it was. Get an apartment, ride the cock carousel during the week, and come home to hubby? Yep, she wanted a safe way to exit the marriage. It sounds like she at least didn't divorce rape him.

Westernhagen · 2016-09-07T14:19:26+00:00

The last line says it all about her…..

Although she's happy with Alden, Rinaldi says she doesn't believe in happy endings. "All I can say is life is a process and I'm a larger, more complete, more fulfilled woman now."

In other words, I would do it to Alden too if I getz unh-a-a-a-p-p-p-y again.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-09-07T15:02:02+00:00

The story has all the makings of true revenge pornography which always makes me want to furiously masturbate to no-fap videos.

I also like how the story has the makings of a field report from the woman's perspective. I get 23 offers of dick. I fuck multiple guys. I break the rules we established. Husband takes it in the poop shoot like a trooper and then...after months of sitting at home while his wife fucks random chads, he gets a younger, hotter, tighter, girlfriend and starts fucking regularly. Suddenly, wifey realizes that the game is not fair! He is getting sex and commitment. I am only getting sex! WHAAAAAAAA!!!!! It's not fair! Wait, she is YOUNGER than me? What is happening?

Enjoy your cats, lady...and guys, take it as a lesson. Opening up the marriage sounds just great and it works great- for a plate to whom you have no duties except a hard cock. Doesn't work so much for a wife and letting your wife scarf down alpha cock while married is not going to end well for you.

Notable quotables:

After her trial year of condoned dalliances was up, however, Rinaldi and her husband struggled to make their marriage work. "Moving back home full time proved more difficult than I had thought. After you open up a marriage and experience a whole range of sexual variety and aspects of yourself you've never had before, it's hard to put everything back in the box. You're changed."

When asked if she'd recommend this experiment to other married women, Rinaldi told REDBOOK. "Not if they want to stay married."

A_Rex · 2016-09-07T16:49:33+00:00

I'm speculating, but I wager she got a little desperate when hubby moved on, and the first offer for BB that came her way, she jumped on it, because being along is scary.

Agreed. I'm imagining Alden meeting the hubby and the younger upgraded version of this bitch. How long do you think it is before Alden realizes "Hey, why am I accepting this dude's trade-in, when I could get my own newer model."

Edit: misspelling

RuleZeroDAD · 2016-09-07T18:31:52+00:00

She proposed sexual variety or kids to appease her feelz.

Either things going in or coming out of her old, depreciating vag.

Holes will be used regardless...delusional post-wall SJW reasoning.

dadstartingover_com · 2016-09-08T15:47:41+00:00

Notice that he got the vasectomy and denied her the storybook ending of having kids. Gee... could it be that he was subconsciously picking up a ton of red flags and his gut was telling him that she was broken and to not impregnate her??

Sounds to me like he was proven right and came out on top. Good for him.

[deleted] · 2016-09-07T14:54:45+00:00

she finally reached a breaking point in her early thirties when she realized that despite years of pleading, [her husband] would never be willing to have a child with her.

Fundamentally incompatible and poorly vetted by both, all the rest is just extended hamster.

Edit: more from the Amazon blurb:

her priority as she approached midlife was to start a family. But when her husband insisted on a vasectomy, something snapped.

SampsonBrass · 2016-09-07T14:24:16+00:00

Jesus, she looks rough. Self serving version for her no doubt. Hope he knew what he was going to do right from the start. Good for him.

Bread_Pilled · 2016-09-10T01:41:41+00:00

This man's willingness tolerate his spouse's behavior is troubling.

After being hitched to her spouse, Scott Mansfield, for 18 years, she made the critical decision to enter into a year-long open marriage so that she could experience life (and by life we mean sex) with other people.

I broke the news to Scott that I wanted an open marriage in early 2008, a few months after his vasectomy. “I won’t go to my grave with no children and four lovers,” I told him repeatedly. “I refuse.”

She made this decision unilaterally. Where is her husband's input? Why does he not set a boundary for this behavior? His weak frame is exhibited because he was:

Against the idea at first, he eventually relented.

What value does a man have on himself if he is willing to be cucked and accept this behavior from his spouse? If ever there was a situation where a hard line should have been drawn, it should have been there.

The answer may lie in his behavior. Men should seduce their spouses. This man was failing in that. His wife says she was:

Stuck in a rut — our once-a-week sex life was loving, but lacked spontaneity and passion — I was craving seduction and sexual abandon

And U/stonepimpletilist is right. While she was riding the CC, her husband worked on himself, for himself. Ultimately he found another woman worthy of him, and upon finding this out, here is what his spouse said:

meanwhile, it turned out that, for around six months, Scott had been exclusively sleeping with one woman, a lot younger than me. That bothered me, especially as they hadn’t been using condoms

Lessons are to be learned here. 1) be a man that commands respect, 2) be able to set boundaries and stick to them, 3) remain passionate and spontaneous; don't be boring, 5) open relationships could doom your marriage, 6) keep your options open

postscript1114 · 2016-09-07T18:19:51+00:00

My Husband Let Me Take a Year Off From Our Marriage — Here's What Happened

This title is unbelievable. If she unilaterally decided to take a year off the marriage, then the husband didn't "let" her do anything. She did the dirty acts and she is responsible for them. The blame-shifting is typically female.

screechhater · 2016-09-08T02:47:58+00:00

"But the key is to find that passion for yourself and not expect it to all come from your partner."

Maybe I am a total fucking retard, but isn't this our objective ? She went on the cc, after the repeated refusals of children with SO and so she makes the above statement

As we all grow and realize the mental prison we are living in because of unjustified exterior stimulus, we all learn at some point, get to the bottom of it, (happiness), or die miserable

BobbyPeru · 2016-09-08T03:58:29+00:00

Holy crap - she's a piece of work / I wouldn't even know where to start.

If my wife ever said she wanted an open marriage, I'd go directly to the bank and take out half the money. The next day I would find a lawyer and file for divorce.

onmyownpath · 2016-09-07T14:05:04+00:00

You raise a great example of why we should have women around that we can fuck in an instant and keep ourselves in tip top shape mentally and physically.

She was banging dudes carefree until hubby hooked up with a younger version. This is a great tool to keep a woman in line.

If she starts not feeling "happy" or some other bullshit you just escalate with another woman... Preferably one hotter or younger. She will have an instant change of heart.

If you suspect she has a crush on another man... It's not a big deal but you can instantly up your dread game and boost your SMV higher than the other guy.

Keeping competitive women around would have been a lifesaver for the guy in the story but he is obviously a bitch.

Title	Opening op the marriage, I think the point was missed
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Date	September 7, 2016 1:38 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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