I have a rather simple situation that has finally caused me to seek advice from this sub
My background: I'm a 31 y/o, married to 30 y/o (married for 7/together for 12), 3 kids (9,7,5), with decent job and house. Im actually very happy in my life for the most part. My kids are great, i got great friends and family, lots of hobbies and although my wife is a frumpy grumpy couch potato scroller, she is an amazing mother and decent wife too. Except that i only get fucked once a month, which you know, fuckin blows. It didn't take me very long to realize how horribly wrong i had been handling my relationship/sexlife once i found you guys.
I first discovered mrp by checking out a dudes profile after his comment about a cuck on r/funny. Needless to say i was totally blown away that this existed. I had already been losing weight (200lbs to a present 165lbs) and putting up with less of her bullshit before i found the sub. Im now 4 months into my MAP. I plan all activities, do my share around the house and then some (always have, but i do it the way i like for me now) and lift almost daily. My gains are noticeable to friends and family but not to the world yet. She always jokes its only a matter of time til i leave her now. Eating pretty healthy, drinking is at a very acceptable level and I've quit smoking pot. Reading as much as i can. Loved the rational male. Took so much out of that book. Im on my way but obviously loads to go still.
As for my craptastic sex life, its all my fault. When the honeymoon sex dried up 6 months in (10x a week), the next year was ok (2x a week) and then it became the once a month duty. I handled this in typical faggot fashion too. Treat her real nicely, cry like a bitch when she tunred me down and then get all butt hurt, only to apologize for it. Eventually i just quit trying and accepted the duty tail. This made things go more smoothly around the house, but inside i was dying. Not understanding how she didn't wanna fuck the beta that treated her like gold and never stood his ground. Since finding mrp i now try for it all the time. The last 2 discussions about sex have ended with me saying i want more. I haven't said this for 7 years. Its a start i think. Or maybe I've been a pussy for so long, she'll never see me as anything but. Only time will tell.
Story background: My wife and brother in law came into the family around the same time. So they naturally bonded in the sense that they were outsiders. He is a real huge dark triad alpha type mother fucker (mind you very out if shape and packing the pounds on). I like him alot and am not slightly worried about them getting together. He is my top text message friend. Obviously anything is possible, but it's not on my radar.
She has always been kinda flirty towards him, but I've always told myself it's in my head and don't be a bitch. Until a few weeks ago. We were hanging out in my brothers garage watching ufc and a friend made a comment along the lines of "your wife really likes him" "you better watch out man". Which in our circle would normally result in laughs and banter. Except it resulted in everybody in the room staring at the tv in silence with straight faces. Which has made me realize, this is probably something everybody laughs about when I'm not in the room. An inside joke which I'm on the outside of. As i said im not worried about them, but fuck lookin like a pussy in front of my friends and family.
An example would be a few weeks ago we were sitting on the deck, her in between the 2 of us and she is positioned in her seat in his direction, talking to him and not really me. Its always a giving him more attention than me type thing. Body language if you will. Obviously he gives her the feels in a way that i don't.
This weekend the whole family will be going up to my parents trailer at a campground. We're going up for a festival and when it's done around supper, we will all be back at the camp for dinner and drinks. Its a guarantee that this situation will make an appearance again except now i don't think ill be able to shrug it off and keep doing me. To confront my wife about it before, during or after the fact would be pretty beta fag I'd say. Im not just going to sit beside her and orbit all night either. Thats even more beta fag. Is there even anything i can actually do? Am i just over thinking this? Any advice would be appreciated.
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