As predicted by MRP theory, Wife has been upping her game (increasing her SMV) lately. Lost weight, exercise, new sexier clothes. She also made a point today to let me know that some random guy on the street rolled down his window to tell her that she had great legs. This is all new, welcome, and out of character for Wife.
I'm pretty sure this in direct response to passive dread from me - as my SMV goes up, she's raising hers as well. I'm not complaining, but honestly I would rather she raise her SMV by becoming more available to me on the sex/affection side. Instead, it's like we're locked in an arms race.
I guess it's also possible that it's not dread at all, but rather just that she's following my lead in choice of hobbies. If I'd taken up bowling, she'd be bowling. Since I've taken up physical fitness, she's doing that.
I'll take it as a helpful sign along the way, but I'm wondering if anyone has had a similar experience, and if so, what it means. Am I missing an opportunity? Should I accelerate my efforts? Or is this all just noise and I should stay focused on myself?
EDIT: Thanks to everyone for holding up a mirror. I feel like my comments drifted in a dark direction, but I'm really not in such a dark place. Everyday I feel more prepared for whatever may come. I feel blessed that these are my problems.
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