I don't know how to do the reddit shit where it links a post and user, so bear with me.

In Bogeyd6's post, " A post I declined to make," there was the following comment:

stonepimpletilists HARD CORE NAVY RED 5 points 11 hours ago:

When I was new to the art, a punch was just a punch and a kick was just a kick. When I studied the art, a punch was no longer a punch, a kick was no longer a kick. Now that I understand the art, a punch is just a punch, a kick is just a kick. _Bruce lee.

I keep seeing a pattern here. It is almost like group think. This is the 3rd or 4th time this has happened with different posters. I will be thinking and constructing a post/topic in my head and see another poster say something very similar. I'm not sure what we are reading that triggers this type of coincidence, but it's cool. Even Bogeyd6's post content relates to this topic.

Here's the Bruce Lee quote my post is based on:

"You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”

When you first begin the MRP journey, it is all about what is the correct "response" to this event. Everything is reactive while trying to use the tools MRP endorses. You are concerned with your wife's actions. You ask about why she said "Y" when you did "x." This process goes on for a year or so. Then you begin to truly embrace the concepts.

You begin to elevate past a "set" rule or response. You no longer just use agree and amplify, or amused mastery. You start operating on an entirely different plane. You mold altogether different methods. Even though they are still rooted in MRP theory, they are inherently you. Your methods are no longer based on passive aggressive behaviors. You intentions aren't convoluted with covert contracts. You are singular in your purpose. Pursuit of your vision is the driver. Any method truly flowing from this source cannot be wrong as it relates to you and your vision.

For Example- familyalpha's views and methods are not exclusively tied to MRP methods. He's stated numerous times his interest encompasses masculinity as a whole. Now much of his beliefs dovetail with teachings of MRP, but there is plenty that runs slightly askew as well. That's where the "you do you" phrase comes into play. At some point, the approval of MRP theorists begins to drop in importance. Your goal is no longer to fit an MRP frame but only to be EFFECTIVE in your pursuits. Your goal as it related to MRP should only be to surpass the frame of MRP.

As you become the best version of yourself, your skill set naturally alters. First, you no longer have to think, "let me use some amused mastery here." You are truly amused by someone's attempt to disturb your frame. You have internalized that you are the master of your reality. It is solely your decision to allow someone or something to effect your reality. With that inherent confidence comes an inclination to experiment. That experimentation would hopefully lead to the formlessness. A situation calls for overwhelming cockiness, you encompass that notion. If you need to become anonymous, no problem, you shrink your influence and persona. You want to dominate your wife in the sack, you flip a switch. You want to be the oak that her river of emotions breaks itself upon, you become steadfast.

And lastly, you choose to knowingly pass on addressing a comfort test because it fits your vision to do so, or willingly fail a shit test, or be submissive for a day- when you can do all of these and know you succeeded because it accomplished your goal even though you failed at MRP theory- then I'd say you have hit the ideal. If we all stayed mired in MRP strategy, then our behavior becomes predictable, and I would argue, ineffective. I think your tools naturally evolve as does your confidence in yourself and beliefs. You are no longer an MRP practitioner- you are just a guy following his vision, building a reality he desires.